RE: Moms not taking my atheism well.
January 15, 2015 at 11:49 am
(This post was last modified: January 15, 2015 at 11:50 am by Alex K.)
(January 15, 2015 at 11:38 am)IanHulett Wrote: I came out to her about my new lack of a belief in a God or gods, and she's treating it as if I have died. She's not saying I'm dead to her, but she is mourning my loss of faith as if I had died. She asked if this means I wouldn't be singing any Christian songs anymore, and my best answer was "I'm sorry." She started crying.
I know it meant so much to her that I stayed Christian, and sing Christian songs, and such, and after coming out to her, I now feel as though I killed her inside and I feel guilty inside. How do I handle this? I'm worried that she may blame herself.
I'm very sorry, really. I just hope that she'll find out that it's not as bad as she maybe thinks at first - you're still the same person. Her grief is certainly real, and she will have to go through these phases of grief and work it out for herself, I don't think there's much you can change about that, except showing her that you still love her and nothing about you has really changed.
You said that you're only the last in a row of siblings to leave the faith. Viewed from the outside, you as the remaining "good son" among the "fallen ones" was not a very healthy family constellation anyways, if you ask me. Did she blame herself for the others? Does she have a relationship with them? Maybe it will improve if you join them? Pure speculation of course.
The fool hath said in his heart, There is a God. They are corrupt, they have done abominable works, there is none that doeth good.
Psalm 14, KJV revised edition
