She Keeps Sucking The Life Out of Me

[John V]

I did try it your way once, btw, Alpha (because I was young and dumb..what's your excuse?)......it ended in divorce and I don't think that surprised anyone involved. It didn't work for me then, and it clearly isn't working for you now.

In order to achieve this, I used a very simple strategy and required the same of my partner. I am frank and open about who I am, what I do, and what I expect. I fully acknowledge that I am attracted to females - regardless of whether she is a checkout girl or a stripper.

I do not attempt to "avoid temptation" because I see no practical way to do so. Women are not confined to strip clubs any more than "temptation" is. Instead, I refer to my growing respect and admiration for the women I married - which is pretty much the reason I married her to begin with.

It's easy for me to manage my end of this relationship because it was not built atop a foundation that required me to be something other than who and what I am, or deny some part of myself that plainly exists in order to succeed.

In short, you tried the mainstream approach to marriage, failed at it, and then lowered the bar on your second attempt.