(January 31, 2015 at 12:16 am)Rancid Wrote: But she was quite a faithful woman and I feel like I crushed something in herI get why some people need religion and faith, y'know, it seemed to be making her happy. I had no intention of converting her when this conversation started. She did mention it's "liberating," however...
Hopefully she just needs time to process it. I can say that the first six months or so after I got comfortable with my disbelief were very odd. I found myself reevaluating things I'd believed for a long time, because I knew certain core assumptions were now gone.
I totally agree with her saying it's "liberating". If her deconversion was anything like mine, it was fraught lots of doubts, questions, and introspection. There was lots of trying to defend things that made no sense, only to be able to finally let go of them later. Dropping all that baggage is a huge relief, because that baggage gets so heavy toward the end. In fact, I think that threshold might be what's responsible for a lot of people from leaving their faiths. My short answer for why I stopped believing is "It stopped making sense and I got sick of making excuses for it".
