Opinions on my drive to be an atheist

[Magilla]

Hey all. Quick question, I can honestly say that one reason why I don't want to be a god fearing person anymore is that I just want to live life how I want to live it. I am married. I love my wife, but we were way young when we got married. If I was an absolute atheist, whatever that means, I would definitely come clean to her and probably get a divorce. Is this a bad driving force?

But surely, the main reason anyone is an atheist is that they don't believe in any gods. As a fellow atheist, I would say that I don't strictly want to live life how I want to live it. In other words, I have a moral code, and so some things are 'verboten' and some 'obligatorisch', (forbidden versus obligatory). Theists often seem to say that people want to be atheists so that they can do whatever they want. The theists may make the dumb conclusion that without "God" we'd all go out do murder or theft etc. But we don't.

This philosophising can be tricky though, because those things verboten, and those things obligatorisch, are ones I have figured out for myself, as ought or ought not to be so. So those limits or requirements are what I have adopted in order to be able to consider myself a moral person. In the end, they are mine. So even a limited or prescriptive lifestyle, can be living life how I want to live it.

Coming clean with one's wife is what I would go for, as a positively moral thing to do. If one is married and living a life of deception with one's spouse,I would find that a wrong state of affairs. As for getting a divorce, that depends on the partners in the marriage. I can't speak for you, but it might be possible to remain happily married. Like I said, it depends - and all that's up to you two.