(July 5, 2015 at 7:01 pm)IanHulett Wrote:(July 5, 2015 at 6:52 pm)popsthebuilder Wrote: The verse speaks of the unity of marriage. Once married you are one. Are you undecided at times as an individual? Yes, and it isn't a good thing. It simply says that in marriage it is give and take, and for the sake of the marriage you shouldn't keep your partner from having sex with you unless you have a good reason, and doing so will lead your partner to look elsewhere.
It isn't used often in reference e because it can easily be misinterpreted.
The problem though is that it says (4) The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.
That to me sounds like I have no right to say no in a marriage, that if I'm not up to it, and my spouse asks for it, he/she wants it, therefore, it's a yes, even if I don't want it. It's clear. The wife DOES NOT have authority over HER OWN BODY, but yields it to the husband, and vice versa. How am I misunderstanding?
Because I apparently enjoy train wrecks, I used to read far right, Christian wives' blogs. Many of those blogs openly stated that wives should never say no to their husbands. Rarely do they state that the man be unable to say no. Among right wing and even some evangelicals, the man is the head of the family. He leads so the woman is supposed to obey. Oddly enough some women say that the bible verse about being a cheerful giver means that the wife should pretend to be happy about having the sex she didn't want to have in the first place. It is a very weird mindset
I own my own body. Period. End of discussion. Marriage doesn't give either me nor my husband rights to each others' bodies. He can say no just like I can say no. That is just one of the advantages of being an atheist.
