Where is everybody when it comes to 1 Corinthians 7:3-5?

[IanHulett]

Again that type of selfish behavior simply means your are not ready to enter into what it means to be married. Because again, Marriage is not about you first. It is about providing for your spouse's needs and then your own. If you put the other person first and she yours you will truly know love and respect in the full fillment of your needs through the actions of your spouse.

Okay. Let's humor your argument.

(1) Marriage according to the CATHOLICS is about procreation. But in REALITY, marriage is not about that. It's about how much you love your spouse. So, therefore sex is not obligatory.
(2) Your argument tries to refute the fact that the passage doesn't take into consideration certain circumstances. Are you saying a sterile couple shouldn't get married? How about an Asexual couple who don't feel sexual attraction to each other, thus being indifferent to sex, and therefore mutually don't feel the need to have sex, and most likely don't have it? Are you saying that they shouldn't get married? How about Homosexual couples? (Oh, wait, homosexuality is a sin. Oops! Sorry.) What about disabled people? Should they abstain from marriage?

There's too many problems with your rebuttal that raises more questions than it answers.

The point I'm trying to make is that the catholic church has it all backwards regarding marriage. You're not supposed to have sex before marriage, and you're not supposed to masturbate... EVER. The belief that masturbation is a sin is just plain ridiculous. Me touching myself in the privacy of my own bedroom, where nobody is watching, has nothing to do with anybody, is a highly personal act to me, and doesn't harm anybody. Not even God. I don't care if he hates it. It's none of his business. So, if I were in a catholic marriage, then no, I will not have sex if I don't want it, and I will not be obligated by a holy book written by ancient homophobic, misogynist, sadistic, racist bullies to submit, and if I want to go solo, I'll go solo. If god doesn't like it, he can kiss my @$$. Oh, wait... is that sex to him?

And I never said my girlfriend was my spouse, I was talking about if we were in a marriage. Sorry if I wasn't clear about that.