I'd be flattered if a gay man said that he fancied me. But I would feel quite differently if he did not take "no" for an answer with something along the lines of Rev. Rye's experiences occurring.
The only time that a gay man propositioned me was a total stranger. People who know me somehow know I am not gay. Not having good gaydar myself, I am not sure how it is that people know such things, but people who know me at all always know I am not gay. So I am not offended at all that gay men who know me do not say they fancy me. What would be the point of them saying such a thing when they know it isn't going anywhere?
Now, if a lesbian said she fancied me, I would really be flattered. (Of course, that happening at all would suggest that she is really bisexual, not a lesbian.) It still would not go anywhere, as I am happily married and intend to stay that way. Still, lesbians have said that they liked me (in a platonic way), and I am pleased about that. It is the most one can reasonably expect.
The only time that a gay man propositioned me was a total stranger. People who know me somehow know I am not gay. Not having good gaydar myself, I am not sure how it is that people know such things, but people who know me at all always know I am not gay. So I am not offended at all that gay men who know me do not say they fancy me. What would be the point of them saying such a thing when they know it isn't going anywhere?
Now, if a lesbian said she fancied me, I would really be flattered. (Of course, that happening at all would suggest that she is really bisexual, not a lesbian.) It still would not go anywhere, as I am happily married and intend to stay that way. Still, lesbians have said that they liked me (in a platonic way), and I am pleased about that. It is the most one can reasonably expect.
"A wise man ... proportions his belief to the evidence."
— David Hume, An Enquiry Concerning Human Understanding, Section X, Part I.
