Would you be flattered if a gay person said they fancied you?

[Pyrrho]

It's probably like the autistic spectrum? My wife is convinced I sit somewhere along that line as does everyone else. I would suggest we all sit along these spectrums in bisexuality and autism and there's really no real defined 'autistic person' or 'bi-sexual person' just a matter of degree (and self denial).

Yes, I totally agree. We're not toggle-monkeys, we're all on sliders.

I don't think that is true.  I will give one example in some detail, and then some general examples.  When I was young, I was raised to be a Southern Baptist (if you have no clue about it, look at the Landover Baptist site, and you will see something that is really only slightly exaggerated).  One of the things I was told was that it was sinful and wicked to engage in homosexual actions.  I remember thinking at the time that it was a strange thing to go on about, as I had about as much interest in doing that as I had in sticking a hot poker in my eye.  So it was not a great concern to me, but I did think it odd that anyone said much about it.  Fast forward several years.  When I deconverted from Christianity, I was very angry that I had been suckered into believing such ridiculous nonsense.  I hated religion with a great passion (still do, but it is more smoldering than white-hot as it was when I first deconverted).  I wanted to do things offensive to religious sensibilities.  It occurred to me that engaging in homosexual behavior would achieve the desired result.  But it just was not something I wanted to do.  If sticking a hot poker in my eye was offensive to Christianity, I would not have done that either.  But I did want to piss on Christianity.

One of the things I did do was buy a shirt that said "Jesus is coming and he isn't wearing a condom."  I wore it in public.  I have also said things that have offended religious people, though I now mostly offend people online instead of in person.

And I like the ancient Greeks, who were, as a society, bisexual.  (You might have guessed that I like the ancient Greeks from my name and avatar.)  I have no problems with it philosophically, and am happy about the recent Supreme Court decision legalizing gay marriage in the U.S.  I have voted in favor of gay marriage whenever possible, and even donated money to the cause.

Also, though I lack gaydar myself, everyone who knows me somehow knows I am straight and not gay.  Lacking gaydar myself, I have very little concept of how it is that people tell such things, but quite a few people seem to be able to tell such things very quickly.


Anyway, if I were even a little bit interested in sex with a man, I would surely have done it when I wanted to piss on Christianity.


For a more general example, see:





I have encountered women who wish they were lesbians because there are so many asshole men.  I think that idea is not uncommon, and if they were bisexual, then, with that attitude, they would give up on men and be with women.  But they don't; the ones wishing they were lesbians are not lesbians or bisexual.  If they were bisexual, they would just be with a woman and stop "wishing."