Ok so during our Skype group call tonight, porn was brought up. I was one of two Christians on the call and during the discussion I noticed a few comments about a certain stereotype regarding how people see Christians and sex.
Let me just start by saying that I in no way judge anyone viewing porn. Whatever you want to do/enjoy is none of my business, but I wanted to just give at least my personal perspective on porn and sex as a Christian. I didn't start this to admonish anyone.
I have 5 kids. Obviously I'm no stranger to sex. Sex is awesome. I'm also not a prude and not ashamed to talk about sex with my spouse, we have discussions quite regularly about it in fact. I think a lot of people feel Christians think sex is dirty, gross, something to be ashamed of, etc. Not at all. To me sex carries much more than satisfying physical desires or biological impulses. Sex is deep and emotional. Can it be purely physical? Absolutely. But I think there is an intense emotional aspect to it.
Someone brought up one night stands are cool, so long as there is enough alcohol to forget about it. That right there tells me there is an emotional component to it as well. Feeling a sense of guilt for wanting to only satisfy a baser urge. Sex as an experience can be enjoyed at incredible levels when you have a strong emotional relationship with your partner.
Porn to me is just not appealing. Watching other people do it does not get me in the mood. Sex is about being personal and intimate with one person and one person that you care deeply about. A person that knows the real you. That you can be who you are around, who lifts you up, cares for you, will do anything for you. I may be a hopeless romantic and extremely sappy, but sex is about love. Like I said I know it can be enjoyed from a physical aspect, but there is more to it than that, at least for me. So while porn can certainly provide a fulfillment for the base urges, I think it falls desperately short on the overall experience.
Everyone has their own opinions on it and I'm sure you all know me by now that I have no problem with that, but I wanted to start this thread and give my personal Christian perspective on the topic.
Let me just start by saying that I in no way judge anyone viewing porn. Whatever you want to do/enjoy is none of my business, but I wanted to just give at least my personal perspective on porn and sex as a Christian. I didn't start this to admonish anyone.
I have 5 kids. Obviously I'm no stranger to sex. Sex is awesome. I'm also not a prude and not ashamed to talk about sex with my spouse, we have discussions quite regularly about it in fact. I think a lot of people feel Christians think sex is dirty, gross, something to be ashamed of, etc. Not at all. To me sex carries much more than satisfying physical desires or biological impulses. Sex is deep and emotional. Can it be purely physical? Absolutely. But I think there is an intense emotional aspect to it.
Someone brought up one night stands are cool, so long as there is enough alcohol to forget about it. That right there tells me there is an emotional component to it as well. Feeling a sense of guilt for wanting to only satisfy a baser urge. Sex as an experience can be enjoyed at incredible levels when you have a strong emotional relationship with your partner.
Porn to me is just not appealing. Watching other people do it does not get me in the mood. Sex is about being personal and intimate with one person and one person that you care deeply about. A person that knows the real you. That you can be who you are around, who lifts you up, cares for you, will do anything for you. I may be a hopeless romantic and extremely sappy, but sex is about love. Like I said I know it can be enjoyed from a physical aspect, but there is more to it than that, at least for me. So while porn can certainly provide a fulfillment for the base urges, I think it falls desperately short on the overall experience.
Everyone has their own opinions on it and I'm sure you all know me by now that I have no problem with that, but I wanted to start this thread and give my personal Christian perspective on the topic.
We are not made happy by what we acquire but by what we appreciate.
