RE: My heart is breaking... I thought Christians are suppose to love "uncondition...
December 29, 2015 at 4:26 pm
(This post was last modified: December 29, 2015 at 4:30 pm by Whateverist.)
(December 29, 2015 at 11:53 am)kmthang Wrote:(December 29, 2015 at 11:30 am)Wyrd of Gawd Wrote: Consider yourself lucky. You don't have to go through a divorce and lose most of your stuff. The longer you whine about her the longer you will be unhappy. So forget her and move on to someone better. There are millions available. So bury the relationship and start looking.
I can understand your advice. I am still lucky to be in this stage now than later. However, she's not one of those who knows the Bible inside out or one that goes out on missions and preach the gospel. She admits she's consider herself not a strong believer yet. That's why I want to hope that she can be one of those wives with non-believer husbands (which they exist, she and I even know a family in our community). This gives me hope. If she can be like that lady, it'll be the greatest solution for me but I need ideas how to get her to be like that.
Hey, if you really like her and you think there is hope I'd encourage you to take more chances. Don't hold back from telling her how it makes you feel when she draws back from you. Also be up front about the challenges of a relationship where religious beliefs are so different. Tell her you also would never want to be with someone who wouldn't value your wishes on account of that difference. But also tell her you would want to go on respecting her feelings even if you had kids. Most of all let her know you can understand if your lost faith is enough reason for her to want to look elsewhere. The more clearly you can say that and mean it, the more likely she is to want to find a way to make it work. But if she takes you up on it and leaves at least you have a clean break and no regrets later, right?
