gay or atheist?

[emjay]

That must've been hell... and maybe still is It just makes me so angry, not to mention confused, how parents could do that. It reminds me of a storyline in the UK version of Queer As Folk where the extremely camp Alexander is completely ignored and blanked by his parents, and when they are forced to talk... when his father dies... all his mother wants to talk to him for is so that he can sign over his share of the will. It made my blood boil watching that and your story makes it positively molten I don't know how I'd ever deal with that situation without hating them back, it would tear me apart otherwise.

I'm not gonna lie and say that everything is perfectly fine.  I have a couple of . . . mild issues . . . (heh) that I have talked to therapists about.  But like just about anything Emjay . . . we learn to deal.  We even learn from the experience.  If I had not been gay, I might be still in that church today, married to a preacher, playing piano and organ for every service and never stopping to question anything.  So I'm actually grateful.  But yeah, what they did sucks.

Yeah, I do understand that... as bad as some things are, they're all formative... play their part in shaping what we become and hopefully making us stronger and providing us with wisdom. I'm stronger and wiser for some of the shit I've been through than if I hadn't been through it, so I can take that comfort from it. I wouldn't go as far as saying I'm grateful for it but I can see some of the positive in it. I'm glad you're able to deal with it