[split] The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)

[Edwardo Piet]

Hammy, for whatever it might be worth, arguing with others about the way they're perceiving you is pretty pointless.  The brute fact is they are perceiving you the way they do.  They can't be mistaken about this.[...]

I just thought I meant more than that. They mean (or meant) more than that to me. And maybe still do mean.

I am disillusoned with the whole world. I am too depressed and sad and at a standstill to throw anything away but. Standstill isn't a life flowing with what i thought my life and life itself was like



Nothing.

Means.

What.

I think it meaningfully means.

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One of the keys of recovery for me is the understanding that I cannot control how others see me, and to just be the best person I can be ... And hold on to those who seem to see the real me.

Very very few people see the real me and how heavy it makes me sink when I realize they don't see how me how I thought they did tears me apart

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I don't think this badly of people i value or at least certainly not in any lasting way when nothing deep has happened

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I highly doubt Nymphadora or anyone here would have minded resetting this whole business, and I tried ending this chapter with love for all so he could come back and not feel uncomfortable.  Instead he came back to pick at his own wounds, demonstrate that the water is not under the bridge, and inflict new wounds with a smile on his face. That shit doesn't fly, and you can't force it to.

I wans't picking at old wounds I was showing genuine love and kindness.

Why do people I care about think so little of me so suddenly and so easily can I please not ever invest my feelings like this again I hate my life right now

I am so forgettable.

Why am I even here.

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I'll second Luckie on there being exactly zero flaming on this entire thread.

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Albeit far from me to question the mods decision to speedbump this thread, I see no flaming, here, and simply feel censored at this point. Any reconciliation I could've acquired with Alisdair has now been completely halted because our discussion is now halted. He can neither respond to my question about where he apologized like he said he did, nor can I explain to him why a long term friendship of sorts, is over and where he went wrong. What's more--is that he reiterated his invitation for "honesty" from us. Any messages I sent him were constructive, not insulting. If he's honest with himself and us we might've had a progressive discussion. Instead we are met with censorship. Protecting a member from themselves through such means isn't going to remedy anything. Report me if you want, I've done nothing wrong. 

Catholic Lady what exactly are you laughing about? Just curious. 

my bolding.

Wow talk about a shallow and superifical friendship then. If firendships can end over mere disaagreement over petty issues and friends I care about can change how they feel about me based on petty disagreements then fucking hell what the fuck is fucking wrong with people?! How many people can't fucking handle basic disagreement? Talk about a fucking SJW dictatorship. Why do I even bother investing emotional and motivational energy in my life!?!??!?!

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To everyone involved -- comes a time when we should realize we're shoveling good money in after bad.

Picking at wounds generally slows down healing.

I highly doubt Nymphadora or anyone here would have minded resetting this whole business, and I tried ending this chapter with love for all so he could come back and not feel uncomfortable.  Instead he came back to pick at his own wounds, demonstrate that the water is not under the bridge, and inflict new wounds with a smile on his face. That shit doesn't fly, and you can't force it to.

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Albeit far from me to question the mods decision to speedbump this thread, I see no flaming, here, and simply feel censored at this point. Any reconciliation I could've acquired with Alisdair has now been completely halted because our discussion is now halted. He can neither respond to my question about where he apologized like he said he did, nor can I explain to him why a long term friendship of sorts, is over and where he went wrong. What's more--is that he reiterated his invitation for "honesty" from us. Any messages I sent him were constructive, not insulting. If he's honest with himself and us we might've had a progressive discussion. Instead we are met with censorship. Protecting a member from themselves through such means isn't going to remedy anything. Report me if you want, I've done nothing wrong. 

Catholic Lady what exactly are you laughing about? Just curious. 

My bolding.

Yes I reitrerated an inviatation for honesty and the messages I received were constructive so when I say that when I've emotional it doesn't mean I don't still want honesty it doesn't mean that I don't still want honesty it means that when I'm emotional it doesn't mean that I don't still want honesty. When I say I still want honesty regardless of how I react emotionally it means I still want honesty regardless of how I react emotionally.

I give up. If I say 2+2=4 over and over and you say I'm saying it's 5 then I give up what's the point why do I bother this is fucking awful I am literally telling you that my emotions do not mean I don't want to hear it I'M LITERALLY SAYING I STILL APPRECIATE YOUR HONESTY. IF YOU ARE NOT GOING TO ACCEPT THAT WHEN I SAY I APPRECIATE SOMETHIG I MEAN THAT I APPREICATE SOMETHING THEN WHY THE FUCK DID I CONSIDER YOU A FRIEND.