Objectifying women

[In This Mind]

There are other ways of protecting oneself. walking with a group of friends, even if they are all female and dressed just the same as you.

So in addition to being a 'nice girl', one has to be a 'popular girl' as well.

Staying in public areas.

My friend was raped in a public area. There are women who have been raped on a subway with other people around. Sexual assaults and groping in public is commonplace.

having a weapon or a pepperspray.

Are often useless when the time comes.

yes, be alert, when you are alone, especially in a sketchy area. if you were walking through a place where a lot of muggings were being committed would you be unobservant so that a thief could sneak up behind you?

Ah, so, if I was more observant, I wouldn't have been attacked, right?

that is not the only reason women keep quite.

No, just one of the largest and most common reasons. Having dealt with people like you since my attack, who like to 'help' by pointing out all the things I theoretically could have done to 'avoid' the attack, sometimes I wish I'd kept my mouth shut too. But then, that wouldn't help. Rubbing your nose in your crap and trying to make you understand how your BLAME of the woman does not and will not help the situation other than to silence women, that might just help.

Because if it wasn't for people like you, rape wouldn't be such a life destroying ordeal. A woman would only have to suffer the attack. She wouldn't have to suffer the judgmental eyes of people like you, people who will always weigh and measure her and wonder how she contributed to the attack. Because if they'd just behaved properly and looked out for themselves, they wouldn't have been attacked.

It's how people like you live with yourselves. It's how you convince yourselves that you and your loved ones are safe. After all, none of your loved ones are tawdry sluts and they take care of themselves and look out for themselves, so they won't be raped, right?

It's easier to measure out responsibility to the victim than it is to actually do something about rape. Because you objectify women, and you don't want to deal with the simple fact that your behavior contributes to rape culture. It's easier to blame the victim than it is to cope with the fact that some of your thoughts mirror those of the rapist.

The 'damaged goods', it's amusing your mind leaped there immediately. Well, disgusting might be a better word for it. It illustrates that your thought processes go exactly what I described above. Your girl got raped, so she isn't a 'nice girl' anymore, and since she's just an object, dump her and get a new one.

If it wasn't for people like you apportioning blame, fewer guys would think that way. But hey, easier to blame the victim than it is to make yourself a better person.