RE: How's Everyone Feeling Right Meow?
February 19, 2016 at 7:42 am
(This post was last modified: February 19, 2016 at 7:44 am by Thumpalumpacus.)
(February 19, 2016 at 12:19 am)Aroura Wrote:(February 18, 2016 at 10:15 pm)Thumpalumpacus Wrote: Hopefully she can see the benefit of abandoning alcohol, no matter what your beliefs are. Your beliefs don't make her drink; she makes herself drink.
I can understand wanting to be considerate of her feelings, but you're assuming responsibility which isn't yours in assuming that you've caused, or extended, her drinking.
Oh no, I don't think I caused it. She's been drinking heavily LONG before she knew I was an atheist.
I'm just assuming some responsibility for helping her get better. I can't make her, but I can try and motivate her. I'm her daughter and she's been a good mother, and by default I have some responsibility to try, just as she would feel to help me if I needed it. To just say "she chose, her own fault" is too callous for me. I am not so dismissive of even criminals, let alone my own mother.
I'm not suggesting dismissing her, just pointing out that we each bear the responsibility for our own choices. There's nothing wrong with wanting to help anyone with a problem they may have -- but understand the limits on one's power ... especially where addicts are concerned.