(September 22, 2018 at 7:38 pm)unfogged Wrote: It can be scary to lose the crutch you've leaned on heavily and realize that you have to be responsible for your own life now. Consider though that the crutch you lost was never really there so you've actually been doing it all yourself all along anyway. The only change is that now you get to take credit for your accomplishments. Life without god is freedom.
I was so leaning heavily on that crutch that I feel like I haven't developed the ability to think yet or reason. It's like a muscle that has atrophied. I've got to build it up somehow. Wish there were a way to speed the process up. Is there?
(September 22, 2018 at 10:48 pm)DodosAreDead Wrote: I'll probably say something similar to your boyfriend, since I've been an atheist since I was 7 or so... but I hope you feel better. There are plenty of people on this website who constantly joke around but actually seem to be decent folks who're willing to help others out. (I say 'seem to be' because I've not been here long myself) So I think you'll be fine.
In any case, welcome to the forums. Hope you stick around.
Thanks. Yes, every time I run across a person who can empathize, I feel really grateful.
(September 23, 2018 at 1:48 am)robvalue Wrote: I'm very sorry to hear what you've gone through. I haven't gone through this myself, but I totally appreciate how being taught all this stuff as a kid gives you something to lose in adult life.
My advice is give yourself time, and don't be hard on yourself. Your world has been turned upside down and it will take some time for things to settle again. You won't always feel the way you feel now.
Also, hold onto the fact that you've realized that the time we have in this life is unique and priceless. Some people go their whole life under the delusion of religion, treating this as nothing more than a very short warm-up for the real life. You have the chance to seize the day and make the very most out of the opportunity of life.
No one can take your memories away, and while you remember your loved ones, they are still here with us.
A warm-up--that's exactly what I felt. I thought I was immortal. Thanks
