There's an aspect to having a role model where you want what other people tell you to want rather than figuring that out for yourself. I think it's fine to recognize qualities in others that you admire but when it comes to wanting to emulate those qualities or aspirations, you really need to break down why those are attractive/important to you. Sometimes, you can go half a dozen miles down the road towards a successful career and trying to be a confident, funny person only to realize these qualities you were emulating were a misguided attempt to be loved/be worthy/earn love from others. You waste a whole lot of time being someone else and the love you supposedly earned isn't yours because you're not really you anymore.
I got married because people told me that's what I wanted. I went to school because that's what was expected, my ideal of an adult and success didn't include "doing art for myself". I attempted to take my life based on chasing the aspirations of people I looked up to without examining the real reasons I was making those qualities so important. Not doing that anymore. So, agree with Boru. I aspire to be me.
I got married because people told me that's what I wanted. I went to school because that's what was expected, my ideal of an adult and success didn't include "doing art for myself". I attempted to take my life based on chasing the aspirations of people I looked up to without examining the real reasons I was making those qualities so important. Not doing that anymore. So, agree with Boru. I aspire to be me.
