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How to not be desperate for a gf?
May 11, 2012 at 5:08 pm
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I'm 23 and have gotten so desperate its not even funny. Any semi attractive girl could ask me out and id say yes. Met some chic on fb and she was all into how aliens from space are taking over, and I was googling alien info trying to know more.
But I just want to not be desperate. I don't want to think of girls every morning and I don't want to see myself praying daily for a girlfriend.
Been working on my self esteem. And being my own person. But every morning I wake up thinking ill be forever alone and everyone has a girl but me.
I do the right things, I stay active, eat healthy, work out, I practice meditation and living from moment to moment...but I can't stop wanting a gf. I'm even in therapy and he says to do all the things I do. But I still can't stop wanting a gf.
What should I do?
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RE: How to not be desperate for a gf?
May 11, 2012 at 5:17 pm
(May 11, 2012 at 5:08 pm)zentor Wrote: What should I do?
Remind yourself that it's mostly just chemicals talking 
If that doesn't work, get new hobbies that let you meet new people &/or try going (back?) to school.
Above all, be yourself.
"How is it that a lame man does not annoy us while a lame mind does? Because a lame man recognizes that we are walking straight, while a lame mind says that it is we who are limping." - Pascal
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RE: How to not be desperate for a gf?
May 11, 2012 at 5:18 pm
Wanting a girlfriend is normal. Why is it a problem? Also, you're 23 years old! Give yourself some slack, dude.
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RE: How to not be desperate for a gf?
May 11, 2012 at 5:22 pm
(May 11, 2012 at 5:18 pm)Shell B Wrote: Wanting a girlfriend is normal. Why is it a problem? Also, you're 23 years old! Give yourself some slack, dude. Says the girl who got married when she was 20. 
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RE: How to not be desperate for a gf?
May 11, 2012 at 5:24 pm
Oi! Not everyone is the same. You're barely older than this kid and you're not married. Don't feed into his idea that he should have a girlfriend or be unfulfilled.
I love you too.
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Re: How to not be desperate for a gf?
May 11, 2012 at 5:35 pm
(This post was last modified: May 11, 2012 at 5:36 pm by zentor.)
Hoping to resume college in the fall.
And the thing is I think girls can sense my desperation which makes things awkard. So focusing on establishing myself mentally.
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RE: How to not be desperate for a gf?
May 11, 2012 at 6:03 pm
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Fuck it, be desperate. Stick it in the next thing that gets too close. I'll be rooting for you.
(needy females love the scent of desperation, you're on the right track with fb)
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RE: How to not be desperate for a gf?
May 11, 2012 at 6:03 pm
you're not desperate yet dude, if you're still willing to go out with "Any semi attractive girl". you're still normal. you'll know precisely when desperation sets in, when you wake up next to something that you can't quite recognize as human and have welpts on your back. then again, that could just be explained as quite wasted.
just go to the massage parlor and catch yourself a rub-n-tug, then carry on.
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RE: How to not be desperate for a gf?
May 11, 2012 at 7:26 pm
Ha, I'm kind of in the same boat. . . but I'd go for near ANY female or trans-gendered person. My one requirement: must be an Atheist. Literally. That's my only requirement. I honestly don't care much at all about appearances. (Sadly, my only requirement cuts off 90% of all available women in America. Also, I never accept offers from people online, so sorry, ladies of the Atheist Forum. )
I really have no idea what you should do. If I did, I'd have tried it. So far, I've been trying to cultivate a mental attitude of "To hell with it, I don't mind being really fucking lonely all the time." You could try that.
What falls away is always, and is near.
Also, I am not pretending to be female, this profile picture is my wonderful girlfriend. XD
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RE: How to not be desperate for a gf?
May 11, 2012 at 7:33 pm
Hormones, rampant hormones everywhere.
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