Left on my Car

[The Grand Nudger]

I'm trying to build it up now.

Pro-tip...females, alcohol, food. You'll never run out of options (though you may run out of money.....).

[thesummerqueen]

Start by taking off your shoes and standing in the grass if it's still warm where you are. We only have one life on this planet - get your feet and hands dirty and know yourself a part of it. It escapes and confuses me why theists seek something other than this place.

[Minimalist]

Christians are trying to be nice.

Then let them keep their hands off my car. Last thing I need is their bullshit.

[KichigaiNeko]

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I've never understood the idea of being devout equating to denying one's humanity. Sexuality, in particular, comes to mind. The idea if god created us perfectly, and gave us sexual urges, but then said these were bad things that we should resist, has never made a damn bit of sense to me. If we were created perfectly then sexuality is perfect as well.

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Well, Islam never said not to have sex. It simply said to have it in marriage. And it said not to marry fornicators (defined as those whom regularly have sex outside marriage and didn't repent and stop).

Back in the day, it was common for young men and young women to get married.

Now it's harder. You have to get education, then good job, get established, then finally a father will let you marry his daughter.

To be fair, there wasn't anything to prevent kids from being born back in the day right?

So sex outside marriage can mean some kids without a father to take care of them. And that's not really good for the kids.

Now we have tools to stop that.

I often get astounded (and rather sarcastic) at people harking back to the "good old days where we...{insert current item here}" It is rather silly Mystic for you to feel depressed because "back in the day we {insert} were able to do {insert} Today is no harder that this mythical, magical yesterday many harken back to (mostly those of a religious mindset).

"The Good Old Days" never happened and like so many fictitious ideologies is a dangerous (to one's mental health) concept to hold onto. Making people marry only opened a plethora of other abuses against children and women. One is still in a better financial position if one has a good education, a job (with potential career), equity in a house to propose that he would be a very good candidate to be a husband for said father's daughter (who is just looking to ditch a fiscal obligation?) Kids "back in the days" still got born, still had no male to look after them financially along with all those other males that died from war, disease and occupational hazards. Both my children were contraception babies so don't rely on those "tools" too much; along with their fathers who used the pseudo-religious shame for "out of wedlock child" as a reason to flea their obligations for raising said child.

OK The above seems very negative BUT as others have said "Embrace life and that fact that you have options!" So whether you do or do not have sex "outside marriage" is really up to you. It is still common for people to marry, have kids etc. Why are you so concerned? You seem to focussing far too much on what if's and I am sorry that your indoctrination has caused you to deny your humanity. With all it's imperfections it is fun, so go out and enjoy whatever you do. Although, the Wine, Women and Song is a great place to start.

Stop beating yourself up mate. You are far too young for that!

[catfish]

I miss being able to throw a blanket over the kitchen table and having an instant tent.
I loved it back in the day when I could build a bonfire in my backyard without the cops showing up.
I miss the good ole days when I could catch a plane to Florida and smoke the whole way there, then goto a seafood restaraunt that offered smoking and non-smoking seating.

Some things DO get harder...

[Darkstar]

I miss being able to throw a blanket over the kitchen table and having an instant tent.
I loved it back in the day when I could build a bonfire in my backyard without the cops showing up.
I miss the good ole days when I could catch a plane to Florida and smoke the whole way there, then goto a seafood restaraunt that offered smoking and non-smoking seating.

Some things DO get harder...

I think I would die if people were smoking on an airplane I was riding...

[catfish]

I think I would die if people were smoking on an airplane I was riding...

Is that literal or metaphorical?

[Darkstar]

I think I would die if people were smoking on an airplane I was riding...

Is that literal or metaphorical?

Mainly metaphorical, I mean I wouldn't literally die on the spot, but the smoke would have nowhere to go, so...

[thesummerqueen]

I think I would die if people were smoking on an airplane I was riding...

Is that literal or metaphorical?

Could be literal for me. I have a smoke allergy. At the least, they give me sinus headaches that turn into nauseating migraines. At worst, they trigger my asthma and lead to attacks.

Don't smoke in enclosed places. Some of us don't have a choice about how our bodies react to certain things.

[Cyberman]

Is that literal or metaphorical?

Mainly metaphorical, I mean I wouldn't literally die on the spot, but the smoke would have nowhere to go, so...

I don't know how true this is, never having flown nor indeed intentionally been off the ground, but I'm led to believe that in the days of inflight smoking in pressurised cabins, the cabin air was recycled far more often than it is now. So, paradoxically, it seems the air was actually fresher before smoking on aircraft was banned. Having said that, I too dislike it when people smoke around me in enclosed spaces, especially when I'm trying to eat. I don't go all psycho on them or anything, at least outside my head.