People Leave... Then What?

[rexbeccarox]

You can ever ever trust anyone you always have to gamble even if you believe in god or not, but it doesnt really sound like the guy you were with was untrustworthy just that he split up with you

Well, except that we were sharing our lives and he told me he loved me daily. He never even told me he thought anything was wrong. One day, our relationship was strong, and the next day he wanted out. Take it for what it is. If he came running back to me tomorrow, I wouldn't go back because I couldn't trust he wouldn't break my heart again. That's how he's untrustworthy.

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trust? trust in what, and to trust with what? I know things about my ex and she knows things about me.
I know things about alot of people including other exgirlfriends.
I just fundermentaly respect the privacy of others and dont give away privat information or other.
And neighter did they.

I guess it depends on the characters one meets. But judging that character over his or her trustworthyness is something you will have to do yourself.
But dont bunker yourself in, drink liters of wine and eat pizza and cake for 4 months like I did.

I'd rather drink beer :p

But you're right

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It made perfect sense to me.

Peeps getting irritated over so little these days

Vae, EVERYTHING makes perfect sense to you, including things that don't make sense.

His reaction was REALLY not warranted. She wasn't insulting him, and there was no real actual reason to mention women with possessive natures since that has not actually come up at all so far by anyone. If you drop a non-sequitur regarding other people into a conversation, chances are higher that people are going to come to the conclusion that you're slipping up and letting it be known that you're coming to an unfounded conclusion about them.

His immediately-following insults don't do much to dispel that possibility at all, either. Quick, throw the personal-attack smokescreen before you're exposed! *gives Fr0d0 his Christian Debate Tactic Mastery medal* 'Ere ya go, buddy, it's well earned.

Thanks Creed

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You know, I started a very honest, and what I was hoping to be, thought-provoking thread. For the most part it has been, but one person (whom, even by his own admission, wasn't invited) decided to be a dick about it. This is a serious subject to me, and I'd like to continue the conversation, but I would really appreciate it if said dick would stay out of it from now on. I try to be a nice girl, but this is ridiculous.

[fr0d0]

His reaction was REALLY not warranted. She wasn't insulting him, and there was no real actual reason to mention women with possessive natures since that has not actually come up at all so far by anyone.

Except where other people mentioned it you mean? And even if they didn't, what was the problem with bringing it to the discussion? She did insult me. I only ever react. Even when her mistake is pointed out she still comes back with an insult.
I see that you didn't address what I wrote either.

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You know, I started a very honest, and what I was hoping to be, thought-provoking thread. For the most part it has been, but one person (whom, even by his own admission, wasn't invited) decided to be a dick about it. This is a serious subject to me, and I'd like to continue the conversation, but I would really appreciate it if said dick would stay out of it from now on. I try to be a nice girl, but this is ridiculous.

I tried to contribute in that vein, but it is obvious that your intolerance won't permit you to allow my contribution. Fair enough. If you don't want me to keep responding, don't continue the performance. I made a point others raised first, and as I've shown, it was clearly not aimed at anyone, especially you.

[rexbeccarox]

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[fr0d0]

she became clingy and deleted other girls' numbers off my phone etc.

Here's one example of someone mentioning that kind of female behaviour before I entered the discussion.

Now, subject over. Y'all don't need to apologise. I'm happy to leave it at this if you are. Summons me and I shall return.

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Don't troll me moron

[Creed of Heresy]

Don't troll me moron
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Except where other people mentioned it you mean? And even if they didn't, what was the problem with bringing it to the discussion? She did insult me. I only ever react. Even when her mistake is pointed out she still comes back with an insult.
I see that you didn't address what I wrote either.
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I tried to contribute in that vein, but it is obvious that your intolerance won't permit you to allow my contribution. Fair enough. If you don't want me to keep responding, don't continue the performance. I made a point others raised first, and as I've shown, it was clearly not aimed at anyone, especially you.

Ladies and gentlemen, the finest example of that famous Christian forgiveness! Watch Fr0d0 The Methodist asks forgiveness of his daily trespasses as he forgives those who trespass against him! Oh yes, Fr0dz. I used to be a Methodist, too, I remember that very important little tenet being a very major part of the daily prayer of absolution, essentially asking god to forgive those as they forgave others. You're not doing a very good job of that, by the way.

Sad thing is that I'm going to come off as white-knighting, here, but...I've gone through the thread. I haven't seen anyone talking about women of possessive nature yet. If someone could kindly quote me where it was brought up, fresh eyes and all, I'll gladly recant my statement, but I'm just not seeing it.

I think it's harder for women too. If you're that type of personality that looks for a mate to provide a backbone to a family, then possessiveness is a natural desire.

Nobody was talking about that. I went back, I've read through it and I just don't see it. Nobody was talking about looking for a mate to provide a backbone to a family, nor about possessive tendencies, and that, by the way, Vae, is where I get the non-sequitur from; it's out of nowhere, and I just don't see where it was being discussed. I'm not offended or angry at this, I'm just utterly bemused because Frod0's response comes right the hell out of left field and when several others start going "uh...what?" he suddenly jumps into this whole blanket-statement + blunt insult thing.

And no, Frody, you weren't reacting equally. Her response was:

Fr0d0, I'm not the type of woman who is either, a. possessive, or b. looking for a backbone. I have one of my own, thanks. Actually, it's really interesting you would make that assumption.

Nope, marriage isn't exactly a goal of mine, and I definitely don't want kids. Your point about the brick wall is a good one, though. Thanks for your reply.

Your reply:

Yeah that wasn't aimed at you, but at the mention of it in this conversation. Nothing wrong with femininity of any flavour.
Perhaps that's why you specifically didn't want theists in here: because of your own prejudices. I bring no baggage. Don't assume.

So you jump right to accusation of prejudice and assumption when neither was made. How the hell are you getting either of those things from that comment? Also, mention of it? WHERE??

Her reply was not insulting, either:

[quote]You said "women". If you had said "some women" it might be different, but since you were replying to a thread I started, I think it was pretty safe to assume you were directing it at me. I'll give you the benefit of the doubt, though, and conclude you just didn't think it all of the way through.

Oh what insulting behavior, Fr0d0! Truly, the immediately following:

Thinking doesn't seem to be your strong point huh? *hands rexbeccarox her atheist badge*

was very well-earned for such cruel attacks on your character.

And also typing " . . . . . . . " definitely warrants the reaction of "Don't troll me, moron."

No, frody. You're not being reactionary. You're just being a douchebag.

And oh don't do us any favors. WE don't need to apologize? You're fucking right nobody needs to apologize to you.