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Interfaith Relationships
#11
RE: Interfaith Relationships
(May 13, 2013 at 10:20 pm)Faith No More Wrote: When my son was born, my wife wanted to baptize him, and I was more opposed to that. Ultimately, I gave in, because it's just a silly ceremony where they splash magic water on the kid. I bitched and moaned to my wife the whole time, so that made me feel a little better. I figure I'll save my energy for when my son starts hearing that a man built a giant boat and put two of each animal on it to ride out a storm for forty days.

This is how I feel I would do it as well I already bitch and moan a lot to my parents about my little brother being spoon fed all this crap so I will be good at it when I decide to have kids hopefully.
Around my area if your not baptized and you don't make your communion etc.. you are excluded from a lot of activities. Its a shame there isnt more secular schools around.
Thanks for the insight
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#12
RE: Interfaith Relationships
I've never been married but had interfaith sexual relationships with Muslims, christians and hindus, even with one woman this year who believed in mermaids and ghosts. I don't think it's a big deal as long as the fairy tales they believe in don't interrupt anything that's important to me.


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#13
Re: Interfaith Relationships
I'd love to find me a sexy atheist woman but, there are just so very few. So few that, I've actually never met one. All my love life has been with religious women. Cruel cruel world I tell you. Yes, woe is me darn it.
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#14
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I thought about posting the details of a traditional Hindu wedding, but it would have been tl;dr, and I'll never see one anyway...

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#15
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(May 13, 2013 at 8:46 pm)Gnosis Wrote: My girlfriend asked me yesterday if we were to ever marry would I get married in a church. It means a lot to her apparently so i said yes because i don't really care where i get married.
Would you guys do the same ? Or are there any amongst us who have experience with this already.
What was it like ? Did it make much of a difference to you?
If you are religious have you married a man/women with no religious views outside of the church ?

If you are convinced that your differing outlook on religion won't cause any problems later in your life together, then why not humor her this one time?

If you are not convinced, on the other hand, then don't have the wedding.
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#16
RE: Interfaith Relationships
I don't want to get married at all, I like not being the property of a man.

I have had problems with relationships with religious nutters in the past. My most recent ex was a Catholic and as such always expected me to behave like he owned me. I didn't respond well to this, so there were a lot of arguments about who I could and couldn't see/talk to/text. He wanted to get married one day, I said I could compromise as long as we didn't get married in a Church and I got to keep my name, but he said he wouldn't want to have a different name to his wife, so I suggested that if having the same name as me was important, he could take my name. He didn't like that, the sexist fuck. He didn't like that I've decided that my kids will have my name (if it's my vagina they're coming out of, they're getting my name).

Not going there again, religious people can fuck off away from me.
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#17
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I was married a long time to a somewhat fundy believer -- 28 years - before getting divorced. When we met I called myself a deist. Over time, I morphed into a full-on atheist, but was mostly quiet about it.

It wasn't until I started opening up my mouth that the problems started. She was OK with me being a deist/agnostic/quiet, but to come right out and challenge aspects of theism -- didn't go very well. We were "unequally yoked" as the yokels call it. I tried to look on the positive side of theism, but after 9/11, I couldn't be silent any longer. I came to be not just an atheist but anti-religion/anti-theism. I view both as a societal disease and as something to be destroyed.

During our long break up, I was posting on an atheist forum. My ex to be found out (I didn't make it secret) and was shocked at the horrible things I had to say about her god. She thought my musings were so heinous, she brought print-outs to her attorney, thinking my atheistic rants would help in a legal sense. Of course it didn't, but she thought my "god-hating" was verging on some kind of illegal behavior; a danger to children! That's how some of them think. I just laughed at how ludicrous the whole thing was.

To make a long story short, I could never be with a believer again. Deep down, many of them think you will "come around", once you get over your sin-filled, god-hating ways. If your honey's family is also mostly believers, prepare to be the odd person out. Getting married in a church is only the beginning. That part was nothing compared to what was to follow. They will all be praying for you to "come around". They will "witness" to you. Some may be quite hostile.

Now, my partner is also an atheist (an ex-fundy Christian), and it is so much better. Like an ex-smoker, she is coming to despise religion even more than I do and there is no shortage of eye-rolling whenever some idiotic theistic thing is on our radar. Being of like minds, we are much more in sync - something that I thought wasn't important when I was in my 20s, but now I would think is critically important.
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#18
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I was in a relationship with a Catholic girl once... she was fucked up pretty bad from all that Catholic guilt. I swore to myself I'd never date another Catholic... but I don't know, I'd probably date someone who was pagan or Buddhist. They don't have to have the exact same beliefs as I do. Just as long as they're not evangelical or nutso cray-cray.
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#19
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If Michelle ever told me she wanted to get married in a church, I think I'd have to have a rest after laughing so hard.
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#20
RE: Interfaith Relationships
My story thus far.
Catholic country, catholic girl, goes to church every f'in sunday... preferably an opus dei one.
She wanted to get married in church, I couldn't care less... as long as she took care of everything! Big Grin I just had to show up, and, given that I had already been sprinkled magic water on my head when I was 6 months old, I had all the pre-requisites.
So the day went by, me in suit, she in whatever the hell that thing was. Party with lots of food afterwards.... that was nice.
Kids... she wanted to have them all baptized... I couldn't care less... she took care of everything, I just had to show up and sign my name. Party afterwards with lots of food... that was nice.


See? no biggie, just endure a few minutes of useless banter and ceremony and it's done.
Now, I have a wife that does the cooking, the cleaning, the laundry, etc... Big Grin oh, and I get to fuck her too! Wink LG, life's good, provided you know that much of humanity's time is wasted in waiting for the good parts.
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