Marrying a Prison Inmate

[Ravenshire]

Its fucked up, stupid and ridiculous . If there is no sex, love will fade away .

Absolutely not true. It can fade away and it will almost certainly become something other than romantic love, but that doesn't mean it will just go away. [/experience]

[Elskidor]

Oh, forgot to mention my wife actually starts her new job as a prison guard on Monday, ironically. We have been watching some show called prison wives. Pretty dull reality show, but then again I don't really like any reality shows. We are both hyped for her to begin work again, and prison sounds like a very interesting work atmosphere.

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I might do the pen pal thing. Talk online.

I think I'm interested in attempting something like this for the experience. The pen pal thing. I had to spend last weekend in jail and ever since I've had a bit of an interest in the incarcerated life style. Not like it was fun. .. It was painfully boring, but more of a reason to make someone's life a wee less dull having a letter now and again.

[Chad32]

I remember I had a pen pal in school. I think at one point I stopped writing him because I couldn't think of anything very interesting to say. I lost his mailing address long ago.

[pablo628]

I wouldn't do it, I think it's nuts.
Then again, I wouldn't marry someone who wasn't in prison either.

[Violet]

Its fucked up, stupid and ridiculous . If there is no sex, love will fade away .

I can only hope that Wally never has children.

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I remember I had a pen pal in school. I think at one point I stopped writing him because I couldn't think of anything very interesting to say. I lost his mailing address long ago.

Become insane, then you will ALWAYS have something to say.

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Oh, forgot to mention my wife actually starts her new job as a prison guard on Monday, ironically. We are both hyped for her to begin work again, and prison sounds like a very interesting work atmosphere.

That's one word for it. 'Horrible' is another.

[Thumpalumpacus]

Firstly, I'm not marriage material at all, and have a bias against it. Secondly, marrying a convicted criminal is not the smartest move, I'm thinkin'. Thirdly, physical attraction, and consumation, is a part of romantic love. Go without it at your own risk.

In short, it's hard to see who's making the bigger mistake, the free partner, or the prisoner.

[Elskidor]

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Oh, forgot to mention my wife actually starts her new job as a prison guard on Monday, ironically. We are both hyped for her to begin work again, and prison sounds like a very interesting work atmosphere.

That's one word for it. 'Horrible' is another.

Very possible too, but she's excited and I'm happy for her. Pay is good and benefits are nice, but if it doesn't work out then it just doesn't work out. Plenty of other jobs out there to be found.

[paulpablo]

Thoughts? This isn't about staying married to someone that ended up having to go to prison, but meeting a person incarcerated for as long as life without the possibility of parole and marrying them regardless of ever being able to have a physical relationship with them.

Are they crazy? Do you care either way? Would you do it and could you do it? Or is prison marriage now just the coolest thing since sliced bread?

It supplies a niche demand.

I think probably there are women out there who want men who have lots of time to write amazing love letters and do whatever else prison inmates can do for women while being behind bars, make some matchstick dollhouse for them or whatever.

I remember I once went on the website for prisoners who put up personal ads and some of them were ridiculously funny.
One of them was by the most stereotypical black prison inmate guy ever and it said something like
"Sometimes I dream of kentucky fried chicken and I can smell it, but then I wake up and it's not there."

[Jenny A]

Just got to thinking about it is all. I'm pretty much a loner sort besides my wife, daughter, random message forums and a select few friends I mmo with every other year or so. I think recently while waiting for my wife's new job to start I've been feeling very swarmed with no alone time and I love my space. I got to thinking I probably could live in some type of long distant relationship if I had to, but she would have to be in one of those low security prisons that allow couples to live 48 hours in their own little condo several times a year for the physical needs. Of course my current medication has destroyed my sex drive so I really don't have sexual urges but love my cuddles. Cuddles will be missed most dearly.

You sound like my husband. Not the sex drive, but the extreme introvertedness. I'm also introverted, just not to that extreme. But much of my part in making our family working is seeing to it that he gets some space. We schedule into the day. Fortunately downtime reading or typing in the same room seems to count as space provided no one is yammering.

You don't really hear of many guys choosing women inmates like you do women marrying men. I'm curious why they decide to go down this route, and if it is because people like solitude or possibly have just been burnt one too many times and wish to choose someone that can't physically hurt them or cheat on them.

Because women seem to be more likely to be romantic idiots than men. I don't know why. It's not all of us. And I don't get it.

[Chad32]

I remember I had a pen pal in school. I think at one point I stopped writing him because I couldn't think of anything very interesting to say. I lost his mailing address long ago.

Become insane, then you will ALWAYS have something to say.

Spending the rest of my existence with you becomes more and more tempting over time, Alice. You are never dull.