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How to deal with family - "Shabbat Shalom"
January 30, 2015 at 6:32 pm
My family is still religious. Every Friday, my dad texts me "shabbat shalom." before the Sabbath starts. (it means "have a good Sabbath")
He knows I'm an Atheist, but I don't think he knows how uncomfortable it makes me feel when he says this to me, week after week.
I feel like i need to tell him it makes me feel uncomfortable and ask him to stop, but a small voice in my head is saying don't hurt his feelings.
I'm new here so if I've posted this in the wrong thread, just let me know.
Thanks guys
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RE: How to deal with family - "Shabbat Shalom"
January 30, 2015 at 7:12 pm
I would tell him to stop. It's all well and good to not want to hurt his feelings but he's the one refusing to accept you as you are. That's hurting your feelings. Ask him how he would feel if you texted him to have a happy Ramadan.
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RE: How to deal with family - "Shabbat Shalom"
January 30, 2015 at 7:17 pm
If he knows you're an atheist then why not bring up the subject in a cool, sarcastic, funny, and light-hearted way. You don't have to be all serious and shit.
He'll probably ignore your request; And the reason for that is that he's doing it ,cuz he fears that you go to hell, its a natural parent instinct . But you should try anyway 
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RE: How to deal with family - "Shabbat Shalom"
January 30, 2015 at 7:30 pm
Welcome aboard.
If I were you, I guess I wouldn't be uncomfortable with that. It's your dad wishing you a nice day... what's the harm in that?
Wish him a nice weekend back...
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RE: How to deal with family - "Shabbat Shalom"
January 30, 2015 at 8:00 pm
(January 30, 2015 at 6:32 pm)dreamsofpotato Wrote: My family is still religious. Every Friday, my dad texts me "shabbat shalom." before the Sabbath starts. (it means "have a good Sabbath")
As far as I know, it means, have a peaceful shabbes.
Both my grandfathers were jewish, but not the religious types. You will know best what your father means by sending you these messages, but outside your particular context, one could also read it as have a good weekend.
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RE: How to deal with family - "Shabbat Shalom"
January 30, 2015 at 8:05 pm
If that had been the most annoying thing my dad did . . . .
Jeesh, I envy the thread starter.
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RE: How to deal with family - "Shabbat Shalom"
January 30, 2015 at 8:24 pm
As my father always used to say to me...
"Get the hell outta the way!"
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RE: How to deal with family - "Shabbat Shalom"
February 2, 2015 at 10:49 pm
(This post was last modified: February 2, 2015 at 10:50 pm by KichigaiNeko.)
Why worry about your dad's idiosyncrasies? Nothing stopping you saying "thanks dad, you have a great weekend too!"
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RE: How to deal with family - "Shabbat Shalom"
February 18, 2015 at 8:24 pm
(January 30, 2015 at 8:05 pm)vorlon13 Wrote: If that had been the most annoying thing my dad did . . . .
Jeesh, I envy the thread starter.
My dad's dead, so he doesn't do anything annoying anymore, but I can certainly relate to what you are saying. Wishing me a good day, even in a religious way, is not at the top of the list of annoyances in life.
But, to the OP, if it bothers you that your father wishes you a nice day, ask him, nicely, to stop. He either will or he won't; whatever he does, is up to him, not you, and so you must learn to accept that some things in life are not going to be as you would like them to be.
If his texts really cause you great distress, you can change your number and not tell him what it is. I would not advise actually doing that, but it is an option, if this is really a serious problem for you.
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RE: How to deal with family - "Shabbat Shalom"
February 18, 2015 at 8:43 pm
(January 30, 2015 at 7:30 pm)pocaracas Wrote: Welcome aboard.
If I were you, I guess I wouldn't be uncomfortable with that. It's your dad wishing you a nice day... what's the harm in that?
Wish him a nice weekend back...
This.
You know how religious types get pissed off with "happy holidays"? Same thing here, but backwards. So he's wishing you a happy sabbath. Its not like he's putting our lit cigarettes on your cheeks.
They don't get to tell us how to act and what to say. We don't get to tell them how to act and what to say. You get to walk down the street wearing a "Jesus sux ass" t shirt and if anyone is offended thats their problem. They get to say "may god bless you and keep you" and if you're offended, that's your problem.
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