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RE: Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
August 31, 2015 at 12:27 am
All I know is that if I ever did meet C_L in person, I'd be happy to talk about poop. Half to make her comfortable, half to enjoy the weirded out look everyone else would give us. I find things that destroy the implied and subconsciously accepted framing of our culture's meta conversation (a.k.a breaching experiments/'Garfinkel-ing') to be funny.
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RE: Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
August 31, 2015 at 12:31 am
My social skills were pure shit 3 years ago.I only talked when i absolutely had to and used a bare minimum of words.My classmates used to find me "fascinating".
Then i read somewhere that Company's wouldn't choose you - no matter how good of a programmer you are - if your social skills are shit.
Truth is social skills are some really hard skills to master.
Small talk is an art - an extremely hard one,especially for the smart one's.
There are lot's of benefits if a person can increase their social game.
I used to think of people engaging in social interactions as extremely stupid.I used to sit in that corner looking at them with a smug look,thinking to myself,"What a bunch of idiots.". According to me,i was so smart that i didn't have anything common to talk about with the idiots.
One of my teacher's urged me to get more social and then i argued with him that social skills are meaningless and a waste of time.
Now,i'm a very social person and the perks that come along with it are amazing.
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RE: Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
August 31, 2015 at 12:57 am
Extrovert when in a good mood. Introvert when not.
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RE: Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
August 31, 2015 at 1:17 am
(August 31, 2015 at 12:27 am)KevinM1 Wrote: All I know is that if I ever did meet C_L in person, I'd be happy to talk about poop. Half to make her comfortable, half to enjoy the weirded out look everyone else would give us. I find things that destroy the implied and subconsciously accepted framing of our culture's meta conversation (a.k.a breaching experiments/'Garfinkel-ing') to be funny.
"Why is that stunning woman talking to that chubby disabled guy about their pooping habits? And in public? And is that my brain overheating?"
We'd get along well, my friend. 
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RE: Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
August 31, 2015 at 7:25 am
(August 31, 2015 at 12:02 am)Kitan Wrote: Funny you should mention alcohol. It is the only way I can become an extrovert in social situations.
It's often the only way I can become an extrovert in private situations as well, now. Much of the time I don't get to express any feelings without getting tanked first.
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RE: Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
August 31, 2015 at 7:36 am
I'm an introvert but not as much now as I used to be. When I was young I was pathologically shy but I've found that as I've grown older I've got more realistic, more philosophical, and more mature about life so it's not so much of a big deal.
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RE: Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
August 31, 2015 at 7:39 am
A woman? C_L. My friend.
What prestigious institution of higher learning (read: I'm twiddling my moustachio) did you attend, my dear woman?
*takes glove off, smacks C_L, re-arranges monocle.
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RE: Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
August 31, 2015 at 7:51 am
Honestly depends who I'm with.
If I'm around either strangers or very close friends I'm an extrovert. Around acquaintances I dont have anything in common with I shrink. I'm weird.
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RE: Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
August 31, 2015 at 7:54 am
(August 30, 2015 at 6:05 pm)AFTT47 Wrote: By the way, I think you'll find most atheists are introverts. Just a prediction though. I would have bet just about ANYTHING against you categorizing yourself as an introvert though so what do I know? Well, yeah, duh. That's because atheists carry a genetic defect called the Misfit Syndrome: http://nation.com.pk/blogs/30-Jul-2015/w...e-abnormal
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RE: Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
August 31, 2015 at 8:00 am
(August 31, 2015 at 12:31 am)pool Wrote: My social skills were pure shit 3 years ago.I only talked when i absolutely had to and used a bare minimum of words.My classmates used to find me "fascinating".
Then i read somewhere that Company's wouldn't choose you - no matter how good of a programmer you are - if your social skills are shit.
Truth is social skills are some really hard skills to master.
Small talk is an art - an extremely hard one,especially for the smart one's.
There are lot's of benefits if a person can increase their social game.
I was a late developer with regard to social skills. Even into my early to mid twenties I would refer to myself as a social inadequate to just hurry up and get past that stage where people would look at me funny and call me 'weird' or ask if I was for real (whatever that means).
Eventually though I unlearned all the stupid things I had erroneously learned growing up for several reasons that I won't go into and started developing as a person in ways that I never had a chance to before. I pay a lot more attention to my social interactions than most people and really mentally berate myself for even the slightest social faux pas or if I cause offence. No one would realise that now when talking to me. I also notice when other people make mistakes, but unlike them I am still far more attentive to the effect that I am having on other people and still trying to improve my social skills. So I may be a late bloomer but on the positive side I still have a lot more potential to further develop my social skills compared to other people that have always taken it for granted that they will be accepted.
Referring back to the distinction between introvert and extrovert being one where you either use up or gain energy from social interactions, I do find it quite exhausting after a while. Especially three days locked away with my mother in law over Christmas waffling on about the price of milk or where she buys dog biscuits. She was confused and upset when I finally made an escape to do 10 hours of programming alone in a bedroom on Boxing day just to get a chance to relax. Three full days of inane chatter when you're not given a chance to say anything and your body language and every response is being scrutinised, it makes me shudder just remembering it. No wonder I deliberately tried coming down with seasonal flu to avoid it the next year.
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