Porn and Christians

[Kingpin]

Ok so during our Skype group call tonight, porn was brought up.  I was one of two Christians on the call and during the discussion I noticed a few comments about a certain stereotype regarding how people see Christians and sex.

Let me just start by saying that I in no way judge anyone viewing porn.  Whatever you want to do/enjoy is none of my business, but I wanted to just give at least my personal perspective on porn and sex as a Christian.  I didn't start this to admonish anyone.   

I have 5 kids.  Obviously I'm no stranger to sex.  Sex is awesome.  I'm also not a prude and not ashamed to talk about sex with my spouse, we have discussions quite regularly about it in fact.  I think a lot of people feel Christians think sex is dirty, gross, something to be ashamed of, etc.  Not at all.  To me sex carries much more than satisfying physical desires or biological impulses.  Sex is deep and emotional.  Can it be purely physical?  Absolutely.  But I think there is an intense emotional aspect to it.  

Someone brought up one night stands are cool, so long as there is enough alcohol to forget about it.  That right there tells me there is an emotional component to it as well.  Feeling a sense of guilt for wanting to only satisfy a baser urge.  Sex as an experience can be enjoyed at incredible levels when you have a strong emotional relationship with your partner.  

Porn to me is just not appealing.  Watching other people do it does not get me in the mood.  Sex is about being personal and intimate with one person and one person that you care deeply about.  A person that knows the real you.  That you can be who you are around, who lifts you up, cares for you, will do anything for you.  I may be a hopeless romantic and extremely sappy, but sex is about love.  Like I said I know it can be enjoyed from a physical aspect, but there is more to it than that, at least for me.  So while porn can certainly provide a fulfillment for the base urges, I think it falls desperately short on the overall experience.  

Everyone has their own opinions on it and I'm sure you all know me by now that I have no problem with that, but I wanted to start this thread and give my personal Christian perspective on the topic.

[Iroscato]

What's your Christian perspective on

Anal
Felching
Oral
Fisting
Threesomes/foursomes

my good man?

[Exian]

I agree with you, but am not really in a position to live that way. What you had with your wife is what I had with my ex, and no other lady does it for me the way she still does. So sex for me is just physical these days. Not that it's dirty or heartless, but it's just fun and light. Different.

And porn is a must for my dry spells

[Losty]

I will be perfectly honest here and say that I don't really care for porn either.

When I was a Christian...I was a very very different Christian from you. And in my religion I was raised to believe that anyone who deviated from what I was taught was not a true Christian. I won't go into detail because personal shit is personal, but I detested sex when I was a Christian. Even though I never had sex with anyone but my husband it made me feel dirty and awful and ashamed.

Now, I embrace my sexuality here, at times much like a teenage boy O_O but I still struggle even with the idea in real life. I'll get there. I will have good sex before I die. That's a goal of mine haha.

But I don't like porn because it's so fake and usually made for men. Also because I hate face shots and for whatever reason that tends to be popular in porn. Occasionally a homemade amatuer video is nice but it's still....meh
But literary porn, now that is something I can really get into. It's hot. It gives me a focus storyline but I can change anything I don't like in my mind. I can deviate almost without limits.

Anywho, sex is natural and healthy and I don't think having only one partner or even only one partner at a time is important. It's a personal choice. One isn't better than the other.


Wait...is this the rambling thread? Damn. Lost again.

[Catholic_Lady]

I agree with all of this 100%. I was the other Christian on the group call, btw.

When the issue of porn was brought up during the video chat, I passed it on like it just wasn't my thing and like I think it's kind of gross to watch 2 strangers get paid to have sex in front of a camera. And while it is true that it isn't arousing to me, the reasons why I oppose it go far deeper than that... though I wasn't going to get into it during the chat, or course.

Truth is I agree with King that sex, to me, is an amazing connection of self gift to the person who I love and have promised to be with for life. Porn is a cheapened version of something that is far more beautiful, imho.

[Kingpin]

What's your Christian perspective on

Anal
Felching
Oral
Fisting
Threesomes/foursomes

my good man?

How people find personal physical pleasure is not my concern.  But if you want my personal perspective:

Anal - not appealing to me at all.  That hole has one purpose in my opinion.
Felching - I had to look this up.  Again not appealing in the slightest.  
Oral - nothing wrong with it.  
Fisting - Um, that just sounds painful
Three or more - Not appealing.  I don't share.

[Losty]

CL saying vajay my life will never be the same

[Catholic_Lady]

CL saying vajay my life will never be the same

I LOVE that word. 

[Pyrrho]

Here I thought this thread was going to be about the fact that conservative, religious types view more porn than average. See:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the...ornography

http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/20...-side.html

http://www.salon.com/2014/10/19/why_red_...s_partner/

And you can search for more on this sort of thing.

[Losty]

Here I thought this thread was going to be about the fact that conservative, religious types view more porn than average. See:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the...ornography

http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/20...-side.html

http://www.salon.com/2014/10/19/why_red_...s_partner/

And you can search for more on this sort of thing.

Forgive me, I don't see the relevance to the thread.