(June 25, 2010 at 6:30 am)EvidenceVsFaith Wrote: Fear or hatred?
Both feel crappy, but hatred is better if I had to choose.
Quote:Sublimity or beauty?
The best things are both. There is too much of an overlap in these two to choose.
Quote:Self-pity or self-loathing?
Self pity. Feeling sorry for yourself can result in positive changes to fix whatever is making you feel bad. It's not a bad thing, just an awareness. Self loathing though, would be hating yourself. I can't see any good in that.
Quote:Resentment or unconditional forgiveness?
Resentment, being that it's a form of awareness about things. Unconditional forgiveness makes no sense to me, and in addition, I am unable to make myself feel an emotion that I don't actually feel. Can't do it unconditionally for that reason.
Quote:'True' love or 'free' love?
I'm not sure what these are or why they would be opposites. Are you referring to monogamy versus nonmonogamy? If so, nonmonogamy. I can never promise anyone that I will both always continue to feel sexual about them, and never feel sexual about anyone else for the rest of my life.
Quote:One 'love' or many 'loves'?
Many. I could never expect a single person to keep me feeling strong good emotions about them forever, or for them to fulfill all my emotional needs. And if you are referring specifically to sex-including love, I could also never expect myself to stay sexually infatuated with the same person forever. A good friendship has a good chance of staying forever, but the sex part not always.
Quote:Intelligence or blissful ignorance?
It would depend on what knowledge I'd be giving up versus how blissfully happy the ignorance would be. I am a bit of a hedonist, and do like my happiness!
Quote:Fully devoted commitment to a few or impartially free affection for many? (Small circle of best friends or equal friends with many?)
Few. I'm kind of selective in who I feel strongly about with what might be considered devoted commitment or affection. I don't use the word commitment though, since I refuse to feel good things about someone just because I've promised to. I actually have to authentically feel good things, can't make myself do it.