My mom is awesome, takes care of me, pays my bills, and way beyond that is how much we have grown closer in recent years. She has changed so much since I was a kid, and she accepts me far more the way I am now than when she was raising me. She doesn't worry about me being silly in public and we have some really awesome inside jokes and even our favorite songs and favorite places to eat. She loves listening to my online arguments, not that she agrees with me, but in that she wants to hear how I respond to those arguments.
I really consider myself lucky. I love her more than anything else. But if anyone is a fan of Big Bang Theory, we are literally Howard and his mom. We've always had our fights, and really mostly over small stuff, both of us are stubborn. The great thing is that we don't hold grudges and tomorrow is another day. We are the "Odd Couple" as far as personalities, but we both love each other no matter what.
But when she argues over her health it is really hard for me to know when to step in or step aside. I don't like arguing with her over it, I'd rather only have arguments over the mundane things, but I do worry about her when she is not yelling at me over small stuff, but I also worry infinitely more when she ignores the big stuff.
Now she will be having another surgery soon, and while I love her independence, she also has a tendency to want to do things far too much on her own while trying to recover. I love that she has that drive, and it does motivate her, but her stubbornness gets her to take things too quickly.
It's frustrating because I'd rather have someone else tell her what to do because we are stuck in that parent child roll, and she's old school and the child isn't supposed to tell the parent what to do. I really would rather have her yelling at me because I didn't put something back in the right place, but I really get frustrated with her when she insists on pushing herself beyond her means when she is trying to recover.
I really consider myself lucky. I love her more than anything else. But if anyone is a fan of Big Bang Theory, we are literally Howard and his mom. We've always had our fights, and really mostly over small stuff, both of us are stubborn. The great thing is that we don't hold grudges and tomorrow is another day. We are the "Odd Couple" as far as personalities, but we both love each other no matter what.
But when she argues over her health it is really hard for me to know when to step in or step aside. I don't like arguing with her over it, I'd rather only have arguments over the mundane things, but I do worry about her when she is not yelling at me over small stuff, but I also worry infinitely more when she ignores the big stuff.
Now she will be having another surgery soon, and while I love her independence, she also has a tendency to want to do things far too much on her own while trying to recover. I love that she has that drive, and it does motivate her, but her stubbornness gets her to take things too quickly.
It's frustrating because I'd rather have someone else tell her what to do because we are stuck in that parent child roll, and she's old school and the child isn't supposed to tell the parent what to do. I really would rather have her yelling at me because I didn't put something back in the right place, but I really get frustrated with her when she insists on pushing herself beyond her means when she is trying to recover.
