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RE: what do girls like for guys as far as looks/personality?
May 24, 2016 at 8:39 am
Humans are attracted to happiness and confidence. Enjoying your time and mostly forgetting about women is by far the best way to land one (in my experience, anyway). The more interested you seem in getting with someone, the less likely it is that anyone will maintain an interest in you. You don't want to seem inaccessible; you do want to seem as if you're too busy having a good time to worry about whether there's a woman on your arm.
Verbatim from the mouth of Jesus (retranslated from a retranslation of a copy of a copy):
"Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you too will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. How can you see your brother's head up his ass when your own vision is darkened by your head being even further up your ass? How can you say to your brother, 'Get your head out of your ass,' when all the time your head is up your own ass? You hypocrite! First take your head out of your own ass, and then you will see clearly who has his head up his ass and who doesn't." Matthew 7:1-5 (also Luke 6: 41-42)
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RE: what do girls like for guys as far as looks/personality?
May 24, 2016 at 8:53 am
(May 23, 2016 at 10:30 pm)Rextos Wrote: right on thanks guys, hey do girls like beards? tbh i dont like facial hair at all!! i prefer to be clean shaven...i mean i think some people can pull off beards, like scott discik and zayn malik, but overall i think clean shaven looks better. also my foacial hair is pretty patchy and looks messy so in general i look way better clean shaven. bold mine
In my experience the other lesbians tend to see right through it. hehehe
"and if i dont get a girlfriend in this life" is self defeating. That, you need to change.
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RE: what do girls like for guys as far as looks/personality?
May 24, 2016 at 10:14 am
You may as well be yourself, it's a strain to be anything else that in itself can be a barrier to being attractive.
I'm a little over 5'5". When I was younger and much better looking, I hardly got any 'action'. Now I'm older, fatter, and wiser; and somehow still ten times as attractive as when I was a short but otherwise strapping farm boy. Looking back, I can see it was shyness, lack of confidence, and undeveloped social skills that put me behind many of my peers romantically. Probably being brought up in a strict Pentecostal household and moving an average of twice a year had a lot to do with my lacks. But it was nothing that experience couldn't fix. Eventually I was floored one day by a younger friend expressing envy of how naturally being a (not the) center of attention at a party came to me.
It's VERY important not to become bitter towards women for not recognizing what a catch you are. No one owes you anything when it comes to love or sex. Bemoaning that women don't go for nice guys like you doesn't help, and trying to be 'one of the bad boys' won't either. Genuine confidence and not taking rejection too personally goes farther than looks. No one is everyone's cup of tea.
It took me about 20 years of only getting laid when I was hard up enough to lower my standards (which never led to anything I'm proud of, but I needed to learn lessons there, too) before things turned around for me. I'm sure you can do much better than that.
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RE: what do girls like for guys as far as looks/personality?
May 24, 2016 at 10:41 am
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The most mind boggling thing when it comes to getting girls is when you want to get girls you don't but when you reach a point in your life where you are, meh, when it comes to girls, suddenly every girl you know will want your attention and affection. You'll get texts from girls trying to get you to go on a date with them but you won't, since you wouldn't care at that point, you'll have tons more interesting things to do than girls.
What you have to internalize, and probably the most important thing when it comes to relationships is that relationships should only be a complimentary to your life, not your life.
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RE: what do girls like for guys as far as looks/personality?
May 24, 2016 at 10:46 am
It's paradoxical. Being scared shitless of women is me being me. I suspect Rax is also being himself.
I can't remember where this verse is from, I think it got removed from canon:
"I don't hang around with mostly men because I'm gay. It's because men are better than women. Better trained, better equipped...better. Just better! I'm not gay."
For context, this is the previous verse:
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RE: what do girls like for guys as far as looks/personality?
May 24, 2016 at 11:06 am
Man, you're only 27. You have plenty of time. Life doesn't end at 30, you know.
You know why other guys walk straight and tall and you slouch? Confidence. They have it, you don't, and it's reflected in your respective body language.
So, let me add to the chorus that says you should try developing your own confidence in yourself. Not just to attract women, but for just about all social interactions. If you're not comfortable in your own skin, why would anyone else be comfortable around you? Keep in mind that confidence isn't arrogance. It's not a false show of 'manliness'. It's just you accepting the parts of you that you like while recognizing and working to fix your flaws.
Work on yourself first. Figure out who you are and who you want to be, for your own sake, and move from there. The rest will fall into place naturally.
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RE: what do girls like for guys as far as looks/personality?
May 24, 2016 at 11:08 am
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(May 24, 2016 at 11:06 am)KevinM1 Wrote: Man, you're only 27. You have plenty of time. Life doesn't end at 30, you know.
You know why other guys walk straight and tall and you slouch? Confidence. They have it, you don't, and it's reflected in your respective body language.
So, let me add to the chorus that says you should try developing your own confidence in yourself. Not just to attract women, but for just about all social interactions. If you're not comfortable in your own skin, why would anyone else be comfortable around you? Keep in mind that confidence isn't arrogance. It's not a false show of 'manliness'. It's just you accepting the parts of you that you like while recognizing and working to fix your flaws.
Work on yourself first. Figure out who you are and who you want to be, for your own sake, and move from there. The rest will fall into place naturally.
Well, it could.
But yeah, I agree with your post.
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RE: what do girls like for guys as far as looks/personality?
May 24, 2016 at 3:26 pm
I live life as myself. If she wants along for the ride, she's welcome so long as she's good for me.
If she doesn't want along for the ride, that's her problem, and not mine.
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RE: what do girls like for guys as far as looks/personality?
May 24, 2016 at 4:44 pm
There she lusted after her lovers, whose genitals were like those of donkeys and whose emission was like that of horses. So you longed for the lewdness of your youth, when in Egypt your bosom was caressed and your young breasts fondled.
True story.
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RE: what do girls like for guys as far as looks/personality?
May 24, 2016 at 6:00 pm
(May 24, 2016 at 4:44 pm)Jörmungandr Wrote: There she lusted after her lovers, whose genitals were like those of donkeys and whose emission was like that of horses. So you longed for the lewdness of your youth, when in Egypt your bosom was caressed and your young breasts fondled.
True story.
While I don't support it as a religious document, I do think that pretty much everyone should study the Bible as literature. Some of the poetry is just so beautiful...so moving...Ill be in my bunk.
Verbatim from the mouth of Jesus (retranslated from a retranslation of a copy of a copy):
"Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you too will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. How can you see your brother's head up his ass when your own vision is darkened by your head being even further up your ass? How can you say to your brother, 'Get your head out of your ass,' when all the time your head is up your own ass? You hypocrite! First take your head out of your own ass, and then you will see clearly who has his head up his ass and who doesn't." Matthew 7:1-5 (also Luke 6: 41-42)
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