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RE: Monogamous or not.
June 5, 2016 at 10:53 pm
(June 5, 2016 at 10:27 pm)paulpablo Wrote: (June 5, 2016 at 10:23 pm)Chad32 Wrote: Bigamist, so I can have a girl in each arm. Am I right? 
Though in all honesty my family expects a narrow view of marriage. One man, one woman. Both the same race. Till death do you part. Personally I don't care, as long as all parties consent. Adults should be able to do what they want.
That's your attitude to what other people do but what do you do?
Anyone who's observed my posts in any detail on this forum knows I have a dislike to phrases like "Adults should be able to do what they want." that sound really cool and liberal but actually make no sense in practical terms. But I won't go off on a tangent and start arguing about that, I'm just genuinely curious of your lifestyle and how you feel about your own actions.
(Actually I just read what you said more carefully, I suppose you're saying consent is the most important thing and beyond that adults should be able to do what they want. I nearly wholeheartedly agree with that but I can't help but think there must be some exceptions to that rule.)
I think the exception is that while consenting adults should be able to do as they wish, they should also be aware of and prepared for any possible consequences of their actions.
Having said that, I don't particularly like monogamous relationships. If I could undo the past, I never would have gotten married. Like Losty, I don't see the need for romantic relationships and/or loving relationships to also be sexual relationships. To quote my dad, "friends can fuck too." Of course, I've never understood the sexual taboos in western societies either (yes, I understand where they came from, I just don't get why so many people cling to them).
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RE: Monogamous or not.
June 5, 2016 at 10:55 pm
Well.
I was in a monogamous relationship for ten years. When that ended, I swore, "Do it again? Hell to the nah!"
But! I met a beautiful, sweet, adorable person who I want to make happy. If she wanted to share Bill Maher, cool. Ya know? If she wanted no sharing, cool.
Look. I'm a flirt. But! It's just natural to me. It doesn't mean I have sex with every flirt recipient. Actually, my sexless spell lasted so long, my fingers got wrinkled, if ya know what I mean.
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RE: Monogamous or not.
June 5, 2016 at 10:56 pm
Monogamous.
The thought of having sex with anyone other than someone I love and am committed to (and vice versa) has 0 appeal to me. To me, sex goes hand in hand with love/commitment and I couldn't bring myself to do it any other way.
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RE: Monogamous or not.
June 5, 2016 at 10:59 pm
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(June 5, 2016 at 10:52 pm)paulpablo Wrote: I've heard it's less common for homosexual men to be monogamous. I think the logic is that men are less likely to be monogamous, more likely to be sexually promiscuous and therefore in a relationship with two men the likelyhood of monogamy is decreased.
I can see so many benefits to being monogamous if you are homosexual though. If you have a partner who's the same size as you then you instantly double your wardrobe. No children will be involved usually so if you pool your resources and you both have full time jobs you will basically be rich as fuck in comparison to straight couples. I'm not sure either way. Right now, I'm young so I'm at an age where pretty much nobody in my social circle is in a serious long-term relationships, I've never had a relationship that lasted longer than a few months myself. When we get older though, who knows. The push for gay marriage probably means there's a lot of monogamous gay couples out there.
As for the borrowing clothes thing, lmao I've done that even with platonic gay friends. One of my best friends is roughly the same size as me, same shoe size and everything, and we've often swapped stuff.
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RE: Monogamous or not.
June 5, 2016 at 11:01 pm
Boring old fashioned monogamist here.
Except for that brief affair with a goat. Omnigamist?
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RE: Monogamous or not.
June 5, 2016 at 11:02 pm
(June 5, 2016 at 11:01 pm)ignoramus Wrote: Boring old fashioned monogamist here.
Except for that brief affair with a goat. Omnigamist?
Demigamist omniromantic pangamy
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RE: Monogamous or not.
June 5, 2016 at 11:06 pm
(June 5, 2016 at 11:02 pm)Yeauxleaux Wrote: (June 5, 2016 at 11:01 pm)ignoramus Wrote: Boring old fashioned monogamist here.
Except for that brief affair with a goat. Omnigamist?
Demigamist omniromantic pangamy
Wuh! Can I at least take tablets for it?
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RE: Monogamous or not.
June 5, 2016 at 11:07 pm
(June 5, 2016 at 11:06 pm)ignoramus Wrote: (June 5, 2016 at 11:02 pm)Yeauxleaux Wrote: Demigamist omniromantic pangamy
Wuh! Can I at least take tablets for it?
No but you can try praying it away
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RE: Monogamous or not.
June 5, 2016 at 11:11 pm
I'd be monogamous if anyone would have me .... but then again if many people would have me 
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RE: Monogamous or not.
June 6, 2016 at 12:11 am
(June 5, 2016 at 11:11 pm)madog Wrote: I'd be monogamous if anyone would have me .... but then again if many people would have me
Can't you pretend to be religious or something?
Then just break it to them softly!
IE, at the dinner table, you say the Aussie prayer.
2, 4, 6, 8, bog in, don't wait! Hehe
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