Psychologically lonely

[account_inactive]

Well I also don't drink or smoke or take drugs because of how it affects my heart.

I don't agree with your theory on vaccines but I can sort of relate to how you feel lonely when you're surrounded by drunk or drugged people.

Do you already have a heart condition or are you just health conscious? Just curious.

[Dust_bunny]

You actually sound like you'd get along really well with a buddhist on all counts except the fact that you're atheist. But they would probably match you best.

yes I'm an atheist, budda wouldn t have me

And i think i believe that there are aliens out there somewhere, forgot to mention that.

[account_inactive]

Do you really expect to go through life only speaking with people who think exactly like you do on every possible issue?  Frankly that sounds like a dreadful bore.  For that, you have to join a monastery... or the republicunt party.

Welcome.

Agreed.

Variety is definitely the best.

[Dust_bunny]

Well I also don't drink or smoke or take drugs because of how it affects my heart.

I don't agree with your theory on vaccines but I can sort of relate to how you feel lonely when you're surrounded by drunk or drugged people.

Do you already have a heart condition or are you just health conscious? Just curious.

I never liked the taste of booze, my father was a drinker, and it makes you loose control of your senses, i find it pointless. I also think that learning to cope with life " coping " is like a muscle and if you dont exercize it then you never learn to cope well. Just my opinion though. I do think a little wine is good for you though,and a little liquor cleanses the blood, but i dont personally like it.

Sorry to hear about your heart issue, I hope your heart issue doesn't affect you too greatly that it interferes with your daily life activities

[Thumpalumpacus]

Well, if faking it to fit in hasn't worked, perhaps a change of approach is needed? If I were in your shoes, I'd get out and do the things you like to do -- you mentioned dancing. Go out and do it. You'll be pretty sure you have at least one thing in common. Along with that, as Mini pointed out, make your peace with the fact the you won't agree with someone right down the line. So long as you can listen, talk, and disagree intelligently, it will indeed enrich the mental part of the relationship.

Finally, I've only met a couple of Europeans who were die-hard Bible bashers, and I lived in Spain for eight months.

Welcome to the forum. Hope you find what you're looking for.

[ignoramus]

Wait, are you saying that you can't relate to people who don't think like you?
Hell, my wife of 25 years doesn't even understand half the shit I talk to her about.

Is "not believing" in little green men a deal breaker for you? Lol.
You do know that there's no such thing as a perfect partner.
You can make it work. Maturity and compromise I find is they key.
It's like I want to go here, the wife wants to go there. We compromise and go there! Lol.
Everybody's happy! (and I get dinner that evening!) Dinner = important! Hehe

[Little lunch]

You sounded like the perfect match for me.
And then I found out you believe in aliens. Damn, am I destined to be alone forever? :-)

Relationships of any kind are about compromise.
No one is the same, not one of us.
Also, people's ideologies change.
You might convince that guy that god is not real.
He might convince you that vaccines are great. Who knows?
That's the power of love. It blinds us and makes us dumber. Just kidding.
Personally, I have a few automatic cut-offs for dating.
She - must not wear high heels.
- must not be religious.
- must not believe in horoscopes.
- must have a kind heart.
- must like kids.
- must be attractive to my eye.
- must not like alcohol or drugs in excess.
and the list goes on and on and on.
So if I seriously start to want another relationship again, I realise I'm going to have to make some compromises.
Let's not forget, they have a list also. No doubt they will be making compromises as well.
Anyway, that's enough dribble from me.
Welcome to the forum. :-)

[paulpablo]

Well I also don't drink or smoke or take drugs because of how it affects my heart.

I don't agree with your theory on vaccines but I can sort of relate to how you feel lonely when you're surrounded by drunk or drugged people.

Do you already have a heart condition or are you just health conscious? Just curious.

My heart skips beats, possibly from all the drugs and drinking I used to do. Now I don't even drink caffeine and my heart is OK most of the time.
I don't think it affects my fitness because I go to the gym a lot and I do ok.

[Thumpalumpacus]

From Rush:

Just between us, I think it's time to recognize
the differences we sometimes fear to show.
Just between us, I think it's time for us to realize
the spaces in-between leave room
for you and I to grow.

They're not known for their love songs, but that verse in particular, and the entire song ("Entre Nous"), it's the view of love and friendship I cotton to.

[Little lunch]

Thump, that's great. I really like that. :-)