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RE: How to be happy
July 29, 2016 at 3:29 pm
You guys read my rant about life being like a big bowl of salt with some sugar nuggets randomly mixed? It is what it is. Hell, looking back, I coulda studied, coulda stay out of drugs, coulda done everything better. But I wouldn't change it Not for a moment. I was once on the verge of offing myself and amidst all the sadness, confusion and self hatred, I decided that no matter the place, I want to put my spoon in that bowl as long as I can.
Because there are sugar nuggets there.
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RE: How to be happy
July 29, 2016 at 4:27 pm
(July 29, 2016 at 8:45 am)ignoramus Wrote: Striving for happiness is a journey.
Once you're there, you feel empty soon after and set a new goal for happiness.
I think the feeling at succeeding at a goal makes us feel happy because we've achieved what we've set out to accomplish. Fulfillment.
Happiness is a moving target we're constantly chasing...
Just giving kudos wasn't enough. This is everything summed up.
“What screws us up the most in life is the picture in our head of what it's supposed to be.”
Also if your signature makes my scrolling mess up "you're tacky and I hate you."
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RE: How to be happy
July 29, 2016 at 10:31 pm
How to be happy?
Lower your expectations. Not every moment and not every relationship has to be picture-perfect. Accept that we all have times of boredom and crippling loneliness in our lives and relationships. Bu ya know what? Keep going and it'll be ok.
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RE: How to be happy
July 29, 2016 at 11:13 pm
I don't believe in happiness. I think life is about chasing drugs to nullify your pain.
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RE: How to be happy
July 29, 2016 at 11:19 pm
(This post was last modified: July 29, 2016 at 11:20 pm by Thumpalumpacus.)
Been there, done that, brought me much unhappiness and heartbreak, not to mention a crippling disease.
Oddly enough, I'm much happier now that I'm sober, even though things still break against me with regularity.
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RE: How to be happy
July 29, 2016 at 11:32 pm
I was talking about metaphorical drugs as well. You know, like dreams, or religion, or what have you.
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RE: How to be happy
July 29, 2016 at 11:53 pm
I still think happiness comes from a process not a result. You chase results and then after you get them the hedonic treadmill resets your happiness level. Processes are about enjoying the moment. I think true happiness is enjoying the moment. When the hours just fly by because you're having so much fun.
but you just keep looking for those nuggets, k? 
