How to be happy

[Edwardo Piet]

[Edwardo Piet]

Men can on occasion [emoji6]

[ignoramus]

Hammy? Do you ever fake it when you're alone?

[Edwardo Piet]

Nope.

[robvalue]

I do. I don't want to hurt my feelings when I can't even get it right myself.

[Edwardo Piet]

[emjay]

I'm finding it increasingly good to try and focus on what you've already got that gives you joy... and discard whatever doesn't... rather than striving for the future or clinging to the past. I'm doing this 'KonMari' method of tidying at the moment and it's very liberating. And for instance I found during my sort-out of papers, a folder full of video game tips from various magazines from when I was a kid. That was quite a joy to come across and it felt like a bit of a treasure trove but it's hard to part with... so I went through each page, one at a time, and just looked to see if it 'sparked joy' and that helped me to realise that actually only a few of those pages do, and not even for the tips but just things like magazine logos from years gone past... Mean Machines Sega and Console XS... or even adverts and competitions etc... things that I probably didn't even notice at the time or care about. So that allowed me to declutter most of the collection and what I'm keeping I'm intending to just cut out and make a collage of those joy-sparking images... why not bring all that joy together in one place and discard the rest? The rest had its time and place... in the past... so all those tips may be gone but they're not part of me, going forward, anymore.

[Whateverist]

I've heard throwing your arms in the air like you just don't care can help.

[Aroura]

The best joy comes from a process, not a result

This seems so simple, but really it is profound!

If you think "If I just do or get x, then I'll be happy" you will NEVER be happy.  Not for long anyway.

You need to be happy first, and take joy in the journey.  I have learned that fake it 'til you make it actually works pretty well with happiness.  If I'm feeling down (and I have some very bad downs), a certain amount of distraction and acceptance, and just learning to let things go and be happy right now is the most amazing thing!

It takes a lot of practice, but I swear it works.  I used to be depress all the time.  And nervous.  I was a wreck.  Happy is something I had to learn how to be.  And now I just love life. : I still get moods, but now I know they will pass, and I know how to help them pass much quicker to get back to happiness.

I do still ramble a bit though, lol.

[energizer bunny]

I'm pretty content with my life as it is, so there is no reason to seek happiness. I just continue to actively pursue things i'm passionate about. I put passion before money, play before work.