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RE: Sex or affection?
December 9, 2016 at 8:45 pm
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I've done the week without sex... for probably the past 10 weeks or something. Ya.
So yes I'm ready to go any time now
I've actually never had an intimate relationship with anyone, lasting longer than a few months anyway. I seem to be unlucky, either one of us just loses interest or something happens that we can't continue to date.
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RE: Sex or affection?
December 9, 2016 at 9:07 pm
(December 9, 2016 at 4:25 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: I can relate. I didn't have sex until I was 24 years old.
And it didn't grow together? Huh.
I was a spinster of 21.
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RE: Sex or affection?
December 9, 2016 at 9:11 pm
I was 19, I even consider that old tbh
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RE: Sex or affection?
December 9, 2016 at 11:02 pm
(December 9, 2016 at 9:07 pm)Whateverist Wrote: (December 9, 2016 at 4:25 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: I can relate. I didn't have sex until I was 24 years old.
And it didn't grow together? Huh.
I was a spinster of 21.
What?
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RE: Sex or affection?
December 9, 2016 at 11:11 pm
Well considering I'm in a poly relationship sex is not an issue
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RE: Sex or affection?
December 10, 2016 at 12:21 am
(December 9, 2016 at 11:02 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: (December 9, 2016 at 9:07 pm)Whateverist Wrote: And it didn't grow together? Huh.
I was a spinster of 21.
What?
Old joke. Whenever Lia is away for a while I joke about it growing to together for lack of use. Amazing that you kept the way open for 24 years.
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RE: Sex or affection?
December 10, 2016 at 1:33 am
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I'd say I like both equally, but affection without sex, would be better IMO than sex without affection.
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RE: Sex or affection?
December 10, 2016 at 2:04 am
(December 10, 2016 at 12:21 am)Whateverist Wrote: (December 9, 2016 at 11:02 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: What?
Old joke. Whenever Lia is away for a while I joke about it growing to together for lack of use. Amazing that you kept the way open for 24 years.
Well waited until marriage. We dated for 4 years, so it was rough.
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RE: Sex or affection?
December 10, 2016 at 2:27 am
I,ll admit one thing thou having multiply partners (in a committed relationship)can be exhausting I worry sometimes if I can keep up
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RE: Sex or affection?
December 10, 2016 at 5:48 am
I've gone without sex and affection for a number of years.
The longer I go without it the more I see the value in everything else life has to offer.
So if I was forced into one or the other I'd choose sex at the moment.
I'm quite enjoying this smooth sailing through life without the bother of affection.
Although I receive plenty of affection from non-relationship people.
I feel that that's enough to keep me warm.
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