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Dumping friends over politics or religion
January 21, 2017 at 9:53 pm
Didn't know if this went here, in politics, or religion, so tadaaaaaa!
Would you dump your friend due to political or religious differences?
I have been dumped for being atheist, and I don't give a shit, because ultimately I don't really like those Christians anyway. I have a few theist acquaintances, but they're not really committed to their faith. I just can't be friends with dedicated Christians. They annoy the hell out of me.
Politics. I simply cannot be friends with someone who voted for Trump. I can't. Someone said that we can't look at people and only see what they voted, labeling them as such. She said people who dump friends over politics are part of the problem in this country. She said politics should be separated from friendship. I disagree. How you vote (especially in these elections) says a lot about you. If you can vote into presidency a fool who mimics someone with cerebral palsy, you are a douche bag. End.
What do you think?
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RE: Dumping friends over politics or religion
January 21, 2017 at 9:55 pm
I never dumped a friend over politics or religion. There was one who's political views I despised with a vengeance. He dumped me for reasons unknown, but I would have continued the friendship.
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RE: Dumping friends over politics or religion
January 21, 2017 at 10:01 pm
It depends on whether or not they stopped acting like a friend because of their religion or political ideals. If they don't make it a problem for our friendship, then neither will I.
Everyone has their own boundaries for who they could consider a friend, of course. I won't judge anyone who cuts ties in a friendship if anything between them feels uncomfortable. An uncomfortable friendship doesn't make any sense to me.
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RE: Dumping friends over politics or religion
January 21, 2017 at 10:02 pm
I'm pretty tolerant, I guess. I like differing viewpoints but I also choose not to get super close to people who annoy me with their overly strong viewpoints.
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RE: Dumping friends over politics or religion
January 21, 2017 at 10:10 pm
100% depends on the following:
1) How close we were to begin with. I'm a lot more tolerant of close friends, more so when it comes to religion.
2) How much they need to have conversations that are damaging to our friendship.
Most of the time, if I know a friend has a starkly differing opinion than mine, I will just avoid those conversations.
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RE: Dumping friends over politics or religion
January 21, 2017 at 10:10 pm
No, but I do take it under advisement. I tend to mentally categorize people, and that unfortunately includes some people I really, really love. It's a difficult time in the US.
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RE: Dumping friends over politics or religion
January 21, 2017 at 10:12 pm
(This post was last modified: January 21, 2017 at 10:12 pm by Neo-Scholastic.)
(January 21, 2017 at 9:53 pm)Mamacita Wrote: I have been dumped for being atheist, and I don't give a shit, because ultimately I don't really like those Christians anyway.
My wife married an atheist. He became a Christian. This year we celebrate our 26th anniversary. YMMV
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RE: Dumping friends over politics or religion
January 21, 2017 at 10:17 pm
(January 21, 2017 at 10:10 pm)Mermaid Wrote: No, but I do take it under advisement. I tend to mentally categorize people, and that unfortunately includes some people I really, really love. It's a difficult time in the US.
See, that's where I'm stuck. I categorize.
Racist.
Misogynist.
Homophobe.
Douche bag.
Etc.
If someone can listen to someone who spouts out all of the above, then take him and consider he'd be a fit president, I don't see how I can like them. At all. I can't think, "Oh, you're a little racist, but you're otherwise a nice person." No. Fuck that.
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RE: Dumping friends over politics or religion
January 21, 2017 at 10:17 pm
I'd probably never be friends with one of his neo-nazi fans to begin with. They are simply despicable pieces of shit.
The ones who fell for his horseshit because they want to believe that con artist has actual solutions to their problems are a somewhat different case. I tend to think they are fools but I still want to be there when it dawns on them how badly they have been fucked by the Orange Turd.
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RE: Dumping friends over politics or religion
January 21, 2017 at 10:24 pm
(This post was last modified: January 22, 2017 at 10:28 am by Shell B.)
A vote or a religion cannot describe the entirety of a person. There is no single metric with which the merit of the worth of a person as a friend can be measured. I'll say right now that there are people who voted for Trump who were "close" to me in some way or another whose true colors shone during the election. I've learned more about them, not because of who they voted for, but because of what they were willing to say and do when it became okay to say and do those things. I've made decisions based on that. I also know people who voted for Trump who are still genuine and kind, if a bit naive. Anyway, nope. Voting preference and religion do not determine who my friends are.
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