My Future/Pressure

[ScienceAf]

So, I really have no idea wanna do when I'm older, yeah im not supposed to stress about this stuff yet, other people told me. It's not just that though.

Half family pressures me into being rich, but of course being rich isnt a problem it's the fact that they want me to get a job that is just generally high paying. I really just wanna write (or maybe something else if I change my mind). I dont know if I wanna be a journalist or creative writer but I fear my family will be disappointed in me, I love them but they have issues too. 

Let's say I do marry my girlfriend (a white irreligious European) my family straight up wouldn't show up to my wedding. They get disappointed so easily.
If I told my aunt and uncle I was a non believer of Islam they'd never let me see their daughter, my cousin. It's the closest thing I have to a sister and I always wanted a sister.

My mother and father really don't care what I do, but, I just wanna do what makes me happy and I can make a living off of. 
I'm privileged, I used to be really poor (and recently my family had financial issues), but overall I havent lived in a household with under an 80k income.

Now I don't wanna sound ignorant but I really wanna write and writers dont make much money till later on their live, how would I have a nice life with a wife and kids and the job I want? I don't need a big mansion or a porche, I just want a happy life with a family. 

Incase you guys wanted to know, I live in America incase that helps you guys out.

[Longhorn]

Find out what you want to do, how you want to live and go for it. If they love you, they’ll come around. If they find other priorities like ideology more important, well. Maybe that sounds harsh but you don’t need people like that in your life, who value their ideals over your happiness.

It’s hard. I know it is. But do it any other way, settle to please someone else and you will always feel that you’re not living the life you wanted. And that’s not what being alive is about. We don’t get enough time on this planet to waste it feeling unsatisfied.

Good luck man. Find yourself and follow the path you to your dream life. You’ll find a way.

[ScienceAf]

Find out what you want to do, how you want to live and go for it. If they love you, they’ll come around. If they find other priorities like ideology more important, well. Maybe that sounds harsh but you don’t need people like that in your life, who value their ideals over your happiness.

It’s hard. I know it is. But do it any other way, settle to please someone else and you will always feel that you’re not living the life you wanted. And that’s not what being alive is about. We don’t get enough time on this planet to waste it feeling unsatisfied.

Good luck man. Find yourself and follow the path you to your dream life. You’ll find a way.

I will value this advice, it's more than just reassuring, I realize that I dont wanna please someone else

[Sal]

Do you really want to live a life where your job is something that makes you rich, but which you don't love, and probably don't feel like doing? Be a writer and if that doesn't pan out, you at least had tried it.

[ScienceAf]

Do you really want to live a life where your job is something that makes you rich, but which you don't love, and probably don't feel like doing? Be a writer and if that doesn't pan out, you at least had tried it.

Wouldn't I be able to benefit my children and support my family though if I was rich? Atleast with more ease? If there's one thing I love it's children, they are our future after all

[Longhorn]

People with jobs they hate are stressed. Stressed parents make stressed children. They need happiness and emotional stability more than loads of money. And they will grow up to also have jobs they hate.

[I_am_not_mafia]

You also end up living vicariously through your children hoping they will have the life that you didn't and putting pressure on them to follow a certain path, until they have children themselves and they fall into the same trap.

This is probably why you are getting pressure from your parents.

[Mr.Obvious]

I would tell you to get a decent education and then try your hand at writing on the side.
Only, if you want to do it well, writing is a full-time job. It's not just something easily combined with anything else. (I Always wanted to write on the side. I'm Lucky nowadays if I have 20 minutes before my fatigue kicks in when finally I'm home and diner and the dishes and such are done, after a long day's work..)
And writing in journalism is a whole different path altogether.

Family matters. But happyness comes from many forms and sides. And life is too short to live unhappily. You're young. And despite the shortness of life, you'll be spending long days with what you choose now. Think about what matters most to you and what makes you happy.

[brewer]

My sister in law got a degree in journalism, became a computer tech writer, has worked for HP, CISCO, Oracle, Lotus, and is currently at Samsung. We don't know for sure but guess that her income is $150K at the least.

[John V]

So, I really have no idea wanna do when I'm older, yeah im not supposed to stress about this stuff yet, other people told me. It's not just that though.

Half family pressures me into being rich, but of course being rich isnt a problem it's the fact that they want me to get a job that is just generally high paying. I really just wanna write (or maybe something else if I change my mind). I dont know if I wanna be a journalist or creative writer but I fear my family will be disappointed in me, I love them but they have issues too. 

Don't look at it as either/or. Get the training you need for the high-paying job. Get the high-paying job. Write on the side. If the writing pays off, you can transition to writing full-time.

Being broke with a family to support is more stressful than having a job you don't like but that pays all the bills.