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To blend in, you...
#21
RE: To blend in, you...
For the most part, I do tend to keep the ideas that I've talked about on these boards to myself, especially when it comes to matters of leadership in the workplace and caring about the people who work under me.  I know that if I were to be more vocal about these things, then I would not be taken seriously: it would likely be assumed that I have an agenda and that I'm angling for something.  As a result, I try to consistently demonstrate actions toward the people whom I lead in the workplace that lets them know that I appreciate their efforts and care about their well-being.











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#22
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My close friends pretty much know what I'm like so I don't need to hide anything. (I don't generally tell them how much I want to fuck some of them, as I don't think they'd appreciate it! But they know I'm a dirty bastard.)

I tend to come off as pretty quiet in general company, as I have to reign in my nutty and rude sense of humour. I worry profusely about offending people, so I err on the side of caution until I get an idea of what people can handle.

I have to do a lot of biting my lip, especially when it comes to shitty parenting and people mistreating their pets. Kids really piss me off when they are screaming and running around bothering people, but I generally put the blame on the parents.
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#23
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(September 29, 2018 at 10:29 pm)The Valkyrie Wrote:
(September 29, 2018 at 10:28 pm)Jörmungandr Wrote: I thought people were trying to hunt me down to kill me for 40 years.  I didn't share that with anyone, for obvious reasons.  I blended as best I could.

I'm 34.

It wasn't all me...

Wink

Nor me.  I never look for people to kill, I don't have to.  They have a habit of putting themselves in my path.

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‘But it does me no injury for my neighbour to say there are twenty gods or no gods. It neither picks my pocket nor breaks my leg.’ - Thomas Jefferson
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#24
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When its hot I wear clothes. I really don't see why when I feel perfectly comfortable without them.



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#25
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I'm not particularly social, I just keep my mouth shut most of the time when at social gatherings.

It's the stuff that goes on in my head I don't think is savory enough for public consumption.
"The first principle is that you must not fool yourself — and you are the easiest person to fool." - Richard P. Feynman
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#26
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(September 29, 2018 at 12:37 pm)J a c k Wrote: Do you have to suppress things about you, because if you didn’t people would assume you’re a nutcase? I’m not talking about normal quirks.

I feel physically ill when I hear babies or toddlers cry. I was at work yesterday and there were three babies with different mommas at the same time waiting in a lobby area. I wanted to cry and hold the babies so bad. I wanted to run away from the place to make it go away. The sound of babies crying makes me think of horror. So, I worked my ass off the rest of the day and tried my best to function like a normal human. Yes, I threw up. Yes, I had to focus every minute to not show my true feelings. If I don’t put in the effort to blend in, I could probably end up losing my job, because we deal with all kind of sad and traumatic cases. A baby crying should not put me in this situation. So, I blend.

Is there anything that you have to suppress when in public? Or am I the only weirdo?

This week has been hell, honestly. Everything is a trigger.

Have you considered that maybe you actually are a nutcase?  Panic Just using that word because you did, but seriously, maybe you should see someone about this. Throwing up from the sound of babies crying isn't normal.
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#27
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(October 1, 2018 at 8:30 am)alpha male Wrote: Have you considered that maybe you actually are a nutcase?  Panic  Just using that word because you did, but seriously, maybe you should see someone about this. Throwing up from the sound of babies crying isn't normal.

Yes lol I’ve considered it.
I usually don’t like it and it causes uncomfortable feelings, but I think last week was simply hard and I felt things harder.
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#28
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I always have to hide some of my sexual thoughts. Even with my friends I'm really really familiar and open with the truth is always just a bit more extreme and perverse than I've said it is.

Am obsession with a girl I work with. Which she probably knows about to an extent but she doesn't seem too creeped out because she gravitates towards me a lot in work to come and chat with.

Those are the two big ones. Other than that there's hiding my disgust and disbelief when I see the obese people I work with gorging on really unhealthy snacks.

My boredom with long boring stories people tell.

My anger when people fuck things up.

These are all pretty much work related, my shifts are insane and I can work up to 16 hours, 14 hour shifts are common.

I know when I'm doing these shifts I have to ration out my social interactions through the day to stop me going insane with anger and boredom. I take a break go for a walk and hide out somewhere.


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#29
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I think most people have aspecten of themselves they hide. In order to be accepted or even out of a precaution for The welbeing of others.

I applaud you for sharing, Jack. You face your demons, even if it'd just a first step.

I'm not quite there yet myself.
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#30
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For several months after hubby died, I wanted to start sobbing loudly in the supermarket whenever I saw something he liked. I would have an impulse to buy it for him and then it would hit me. Again and again. I ended up shopping where no one knew me and shuffling through the store , head down, avoiding all eye contact lest I lose it...   Thank dog that's over with.
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