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Wife upset i am an atheist
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 RE: Wife upset i am an atheist
July 22, 2020 at 1:09 pm
(This post was last modified: July 22, 2020 at 1:09 pm by Porcupine.)
If your wife truly loves you she will eventually accept your atheism.
"Zen … does not confuse spirituality with thinking about God while one is peeling potatoes. Zen spirituality is just to peel the potatoes." - Alan Watts
 Quote:Wife upset i am an atheist I just checked with my wife and she’s not the least bit upset that you’re an atheist. You must be imagining it. Boru
‘But it does me no injury for my neighbour to say there are twenty gods or no gods. It neither picks my pocket nor breaks my leg.’ - Thomas Jefferson
 (November 23, 2019 at 1:23 pm)Southern Atheist Wrote: So I've been married 7 years and a little over a year ago I became an atheist due to realizing my belief in the Christian god was unfounded. I found the reasons I believed were fallacious or unjustified and after looking for answers and proof that the Christian god actually existed I came to be an atheist. I live in the bible belt and I can count the number of open atheist I've actually met in person on one hand, my wife is the only person I have honestly told that I have come to be an atheist and she is understandably upset as we were both believers when we married although we were never really religious as in we didn't go to church. She doesn't have any good reasons to believe herself I think its more like she's just hopeful there is a god and she wants me to be in heaven with her when we die even though I've told her I don't believe heaven exist. Also she thinks its just more "normal" to believe than not to believe especially around here when 90% of people are Christians. I haven't tried to push her towards atheism at all mainly because her father is deceased and I feel that thinking he is in heaven helps her cope. To sum it up she is very upset and she can't understand why I have become an atheist and I don't feel I can fully explain why I have without seeming to attack her belief even if that's not my intention. Just so you know, "atheist" isn't about rejecting the claims of just the Christian God. She is an atheist to claims of Thor and Isis and Apollo herself. You just reject one god claim more than she does. BTY, you don't "become" anything. You simply ditch one position for another. If you like eating at a restaurant you are not the restaurant itself. If you get tired of eating there, again, you are not the restaurant. You didn't "become" anything. You simply thought about the claims over time and didn't find them logical. Just like if you eat food you think is good for you and suddenly find out it is crap. 
Hey OP - I feel you. I was a believer most of my life and recently told my family (parents, brother) I'm an atheist, and they didn't take it well as they're all strong believers. Our situations aren't exactly the same here - I'm lucky that my partner is an atheist, so I have his full support. But I know it's a tough adjustment for the people you love. My family hasn't disowned me or anything; we're all still on good terms. It's just a little awkward. We're all uncertain about how to act or what to say (and not say). And my folks think God will reveal himself to me and I'll be Christian again so that's sort of a weird vibe. I know all of that will get better with some time, but it's still hard here and now.
All of that to say: you're not alone being a relatively new atheist among religious loved ones. If you guys keep communications open, honest, and loving, I think it's very likely you can make it through together, as long as that's what both of you want. I read a book that helped me a lot. It's called Mom, Dad, I'm an Atheist by David G McAfee. Would highly recommend. Best of luck! 
GUBU
Education: None. Skills: None. Merits: None  Religious Views: the Disc's first ligthning proof atheist (November 23, 2019 at 3:06 pm)Southern Atheist Wrote:(November 23, 2019 at 3:03 pm)BrianSoddingBoru4 Wrote: Have you thought about getting a different wife? Sorry second wife is a three donkey minimum. Either that or go the biblical route, assault her and then pay her father forty shekels.
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Home  (July 22, 2020 at 1:03 pm)Dundee Wrote:She believed the universe was invented to kiss her Nordic ass.(November 23, 2019 at 3:15 pm)Gawdzilla Sama Wrote: I had a similar problem with my second wife. I didn't believe in God and she took that personally, she did believe she was God.  (July 22, 2020 at 2:43 pm)Gawdzilla Sama Wrote:(July 22, 2020 at 1:03 pm)Dundee Wrote: Did she really belive that SHE was God?She believed the universe was invented to kiss her Nordic ass. Wait. We were married?
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"Zen … does not confuse spirituality with thinking about God while one is peeling potatoes. Zen spirituality is just to peel the potatoes." - Alan Watts
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