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RE: Wife upset i am an atheist
November 23, 2019 at 4:52 pm
(November 23, 2019 at 3:52 pm)Mister Agenda Wrote: You're in a rough spot, especially with a small child. Not for nothing, but I really think you should see a marriage counselor. You may have to travel a bit to find one who won't automatically take the religious person's side; it's your relationship that needs the help, not who you are. If it doesn't work, if she can't accept you for who you are, at least you'll know you gave it your best shot. And if she can't accept you, that doesn't necessarily mean that she's in the wrong, it is a very hard adjustment to learn to love the person a spouse becomes when it's very different from the person they fell in love with and chose to marry. Some couples pull it off, my partner is something like a lapsed Bahá'í but still a theist.
Thanks for that it hasn't really been too big of a issue yet I feel like we can work through it, only time will tell, kudos!
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RE: Wife upset i am an atheist
November 23, 2019 at 10:28 pm
I've got a catholic wife, we've worked it out. I've got a protestant son from and earlier marriage, we've worked it out.
Focus on what you have in common, not what is different.
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RE: Wife upset i am an atheist
November 24, 2019 at 12:00 am
(November 23, 2019 at 10:28 pm)brewer Wrote: I've got a catholic wife, we've worked it out. I've got a protestant son from and earlier marriage, we've worked it out.
Focus on what you have in common, not what is different.
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RE: Wife upset i am an atheist
November 24, 2019 at 2:30 am
One’s freedom is as important as maintaining a healthy marriage.
Don’t back up on your stand, but don’t push it either. I know you didn’t ask for advice, for here it goes lol.
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RE: Wife upset i am an atheist
November 24, 2019 at 3:57 am
The heaven thing used to be an issue for my wife and her family. Probably still is for her father. They came to terms with it over time, whatever that means to them. I don't ask, and they don't tell.
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RE: Wife upset i am an atheist
November 24, 2019 at 7:50 am
(November 24, 2019 at 12:00 am)Fireball Wrote: (November 23, 2019 at 10:28 pm)brewer Wrote: I've got a catholic wife, we've worked it out. I've got a protestant son from and earlier marriage, we've worked it out.
Focus on what you have in common, not what is different.
Kill those infidels!
Donald? Is that you?
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RE: Wife upset i am an atheist
November 24, 2019 at 3:13 pm
Welcome.
It will likely taje some time but, unless your wife goes full fanatic, I don’t think it will be too much of a problem if you concentrate on what you have in common.
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RE: Wife upset i am an atheist
November 24, 2019 at 3:20 pm
(November 24, 2019 at 3:13 pm)The Valkyrie Wrote: Welcome.
It will likely taje some time but, unless your wife goes full fanatic, I don’t think it will be too much of a problem if you concentrate on what you have in common.
I was actually quite surprised that she even cared as she has never been religious at all she never prays or said the blessing before eating or went to church but she believes "because its normal". I think it has a lot to do with her dad being deceased as well I think she gets some comfort from thinking he is in heaven. I feel the opposite way I have tried to spend more time with my grandparents and parents after becoming an atheist because I am pretty sure I won't see them again after they die, its made me cherish the time with them more.
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RE: Wife upset i am an atheist
November 24, 2019 at 3:55 pm
(November 24, 2019 at 3:20 pm)Southern Atheist Wrote: (November 24, 2019 at 3:13 pm)The Valkyrie Wrote: Welcome.
It will likely taje some time but, unless your wife goes full fanatic, I don’t think it will be too much of a problem if you concentrate on what you have in common.
I was actually quite surprised that she even cared as she has never been religious at all she never prays or said the blessing before eating or went to church but she believes "because its normal". I think it has a lot to do with her dad being deceased as well I think she gets some comfort from thinking he is in heaven. I feel the opposite way I have tried to spend more time with my grandparents and parents after becoming an atheist because I am pretty sure I won't see them again after they die, its made me cherish the time with them more.
Have you pounding her as you are supposed to do? Let her rip, that what i usually do.
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RE: Wife upset i am an atheist
July 22, 2020 at 1:03 pm
(November 23, 2019 at 3:15 pm)Gawdzilla Sama Wrote: I had a similar problem with my second wife. I didn't believe in God and she took that personally, she did believe she was God.
Just sayin' that somethings don't get fixed.
Did she really belive that SHE was God?
Now that is a serious condition.
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