RE: Xtian Therapist/ Atheist Patient
November 23, 2022 at 9:45 pm
(November 23, 2022 at 8:54 pm)Uberpod Wrote: My friend handled her therapist well. She said I will be coming to two more sessions free of charge and I will be giving you information on just how unethical you have been. The therapist clearly should have not taken the case from the start. As an abuse survivor, trust was the patient's biggest issue.
As your friend discovered, there's always a risk with a therapist. They might have prejudices, or other issues which will make them unhelpful. They're human, too.
Is your friend in a big city? I remember even before the Internet you could kind of ask around and find an appropriate therapist. It was known who was gay-friendly, and what their style was. Some give a lot of advice, and some barely say anything. I remember my friends discussing when I lived in NYC. Back in the '80s there was still significant discrimination from landlords, employers, etc., even more than now. So it was normal to gather information from the grapevine before signing up with anyone.
I guess it was easier in that environment, since so many of the people I worked with were gay. Also talk-therapy had little stigma in NYC.
Is your friend in a big city, or a college town where there are choices in therapists? It must be harder in smaller towns. I wonder if there are message boards or web sites like "Rate My Professor" where you can read reviews. I think I'd do that if I were going into therapy.
My niece had a disappointing experience with a therapist, I recall. The therapist would bring up her own issues with her weight, and say things like "I wish I were as thin as you," etc. Which given the circumstances was shockingly unprofessional. I don't know what the credentialing process for these people is in America, but it should definitely be stricter.
Anyway, I'm glad your friend stood up to the therapist. Let's hope she becomes more professional in the future.