Have you ever been so offended?

[Minimalist]

Your choice....but be prepared for her to do it again. She is not going to change until you tell her off.

[BrianSoddingBoru4]

That you nearly tell a loved one to go fuck themself?
My aunt sent me a long list of text messages. She informed me the reason I suffered in my marriage (I am divorced from an extremely abusive marriage) is because my faith was not strong enough. I was essentially not good enough for god to be able to save me. But that doesn't mean give up. That means try harder to be the woman god desires me to be.
I typed a response about her getting fucked in the ass by god. But I deleted it along with her messages.
It's so pathetic to believe in an all knowing all powerful god who hides from you and then punishes you for not being able to see him clearly.
Ugh

I had almost the opposite experience. While at Uni, I (briefly) dated a Senegalese girl. I brought her home one week-end. Mum and Da made her welcome, there wasn't anything uncomfortable - until my Uncle Nick showed up. Once he got it through his thick, bog-trotter's skull that this girl and I were a couple, he began ranting about mixing races, God's will, not 'lying down with beasts' (meaning my girlfriend), and so forth.

I remember Da bellowing something about Uncle Nick not standing in Da's house and insulting a guest (at 6'7" and nearly 20 stone, Da could bellow with the best of them). I was prepared to clean my uncle's clock for him, my girl was crying, Mum was trying to keep my father from committing murder.

When the decibel level dropped a bit, Nick looked at me and said, 'You've got what you deserve.' I shoved him as my girl and I went out, told him I hoped he died alone and friendless and that I'd never speak to him again.

That was 23 years ago, and I haven't seen or spoken to him since.

Boru

[Losty]

Your choice....but be prepared for her to do it again. She is not going to change until you tell her off.

Probably at some point in my life I will grow so tired of them that I will tell them all to fuck off. Right now I just remind myself that I am a better person than they are. I help people out of the goodness of my heart with no agenda to push and I love people, even the ones like them who hurt me, because I'm just a loving person. They're wrong about me. I am good.

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I had almost the opposite experience. While at Uni, I (briefly) dated a Senegalese girl. I brought her home one week-end. Mum and Da made her welcome, there wasn't anything uncomfortable - until my Uncle Nick showed up. Once he got it through his thick, bog-trotter's skull that this girl and I were a couple, he began ranting about mixing races, God's will, not 'lying down with beasts' (meaning my girlfriend), and so forth.

I remember Da bellowing something about Uncle Nick not standing in Da's house and insulting a guest (at 6'7" and nearly 20 stone, Da could bellow with the best of them). I was prepared to clean my uncle's clock for him, my girl was crying, Mum was trying to keep my father from committing murder.

When the decibel level dropped a bit, Nick looked at me and said, 'You've got what you deserve.' I shoved him as my girl and I went out, told him I hoped he died alone and friendless and that I'd never speak to him again.

That was 23 years ago, and I haven't seen or spoken to him since.

Boru

That's awful! Your uncle must live a sad hate filled life.
Somehow even with all the religious nonsense I never had to put up with the race thing. Neither of our families seemed all that concerned with the race difference.

[RobbyPants]

nearly? I have done it.

Your aunt is the problem not god.

Based on your response about God fucking you, I suspect you had a large part in the break up. The word "irrational" is the first word that pops up. Then the words "did fall far from the tree" came up but I am not sure if your aunt is your mom/dad's sister.

if blaming "No-god" helps you, go for it. But when it becomes ranting it becomes self defeating.

But you have the chance to stop this cycle.
Good luck.

I've read about her past in another forum. Not only was she abused by her husband, but her mother repeatedly said that this sort of abuse was truly good, right, proper, and godly.

It's not particularly helpful when you give someone "advice" when you have no idea what their situation is.

[Fromper]

If it was me personally, I would write a well-worded, profanity free message pointing out all of her flaws,everything wrong with what she's saying and what a terrible person she is for saying it, and then, in the final sentence, tell her "kindly go fuck yourself now."

If it was me.

I wouldn't tolerate that kind of bullshit from even my closest relative, and once you cross that line, the gloves are off.

That would be my advice. Let her know that you won't tolerate this BS again, or else you WILL here it again.

Your choice....but be prepared for her to do it again. She is not going to change until you tell her off.

She won't change after telling her off, either. But instead of saying these things to Losty's face and pissing her off again, the aunt will just talk about her behind her back. It's highly unlikely she'll change, though. But most can just be trained to pretend to be a better person, even if they're not.

[Godlesspanther]

If it was me personally, I would write a well-worded, profanity free message pointing out all of her flaws,everything wrong with what she's saying and what a terrible person she is for saying it, and then, in the final sentence, tell her "kindly go fuck yourself now."

If it was me.

I wouldn't tolerate that kind of bullshit from even my closest relative, and once you cross that line, the gloves are off.

That would be my advice. Let her know that you won't tolerate this BS again, or else you WILL here it again.

Your choice....but be prepared for her to do it again. She is not going to change until you tell her off.

She won't change after telling her off, either. But instead of saying these things to Losty's face and pissing her off again, the aunt will just talk about her behind her back. It's highly unlikely she'll change, though. But most can just be trained to pretend to be a better person, even if they're not.

After reading numerous stories from ex-christians I have found that sometimes a hard approach works. The aunt may not see that she is just using her religion as a lame excuse for bad behavior and just needs someone to point that out to her.

[Losty]

That would be my advice. Let her know that you won't tolerate this BS again, or else you WILL here it again.

She won't change after telling her off, either. But instead of saying these things to Losty's face and pissing her off again, the aunt will just talk about her behind her back. It's highly unlikely she'll change, though. But most can just be trained to pretend to be a better person, even if they're not.

After reading numerous stories from ex-christians I have found that sometimes a hard approach works. The aunt may not see that she is just using her religion as a lame excuse for bad behavior and just needs someone to point that out to her.

In my experience, pointing things out to religious people has no effect on the way they think and act.

[Godlesspanther]

After reading numerous stories from ex-christians I have found that sometimes a hard approach works. The aunt may not see that she is just using her religion as a lame excuse for bad behavior and just needs someone to point that out to her.

In my experience, pointing things out to religious people has no effect on the way they think and act.

I think it depends on the individual. I have never been religious -- life-long atheist, and so there are some things that I really don't get. I realize that in someone like your aunt, the denial is super-heavey-duty and there is no way that she would be willing to come to terms with the fact that she is just using her doctrine as an excuse for bad behavior -- but I still think that it should be pointed out.

[Ryantology]

My dad's reaction to my dropping his religion was passive-aggressive, shit like asking if I had a prayer to say at a holiday meal knowing I wouldn't. I'm not really bothered by things like that. However, he tried sneaking in a suggestion that I turn back to God when I broke the news to him that my wife had miscarried. I honestly don't think he was intending to be an ass about it, and I do think that his heart was in the right place, but it was absolutely the last thing I wanted to hear at that moment. It would have been like me going to him in a similar situation and saying "Maybe it's time you gave up on the god who let this happen to you".

[The Valkyrie]

That you nearly tell a loved one to go fuck themself?
My aunt sent me a long list of text messages. She informed me the reason I suffered in my marriage (I am divorced from an extremely abusive marriage) is because my faith was not strong enough. I was essentially not good enough for god to be able to save me. But that doesn't mean give up. That means try harder to be the woman god desires me to be.
I typed a response about her getting fucked in the ass by god. But I deleted it along with her messages.
It's so pathetic to believe in an all knowing all powerful god who hides from you and then punishes you for not being able to see him clearly.
Ugh

Yes, I once told a religious friend to fuck off and take his primitive beliefs with him.

On an episode of the Thinking Atheist, Seth reads an email about a woman who lost her baby to a miscarriage and he aunt phoned her and told her she deserved it for not believing in god.

Vile individuals like this, frankly, deserve a punch in the mouth.