Yes, so what? I know many of you will call me a faggot or whatever. Idgf

I am a 21 year old male who has never kissed a girl or anything.  I often live off platonic loves. Liking a girl who I dont even know for years, and not being able to tolerate her presence because I start trembling, sweating, stuttering, cant think clearly, and feel like my legs have a 1000 KG ball attached to them (heavy). I often feel inferior to women who are pretty (in a specific way), or to the girl I like. Recently I even feel anger because is something I can barely control. Even when I read manga, or watch TV, etc. If there is a pretty female character, I almost immediatly feel annoyed by her. 

Take into account, though, that I am not shy in general. I speak well in public, and I can speak to anyone including women. EXCEPT, the girl I like. She is the only one who breaks me. 

Has anyone ever felt the same? It is like a love-hate sensation. You like her, and the same time you hate her.

(September 3, 2016 at 5:04 pm)Macoleco Wrote: Yes, so what? I know many of you will call me a faggot or whatever. Idgf

Somehow, I doubt that...

(September 3, 2016 at 5:04 pm)Macoleco Wrote: Yes, so what? I know many of you will call me a faggot or whatever. Idgf

I am a 21 year old male who has never kissed a girl or anything.  I often live off platonic loves. Liking a girl who I dont even know for years, and not being able to tolerate her presence because I start trembling, sweating, stuttering, cant think clearly, and feel like my legs have a 1000 KG ball attached to them (heavy). I often feel inferior to women who are pretty (in a specific way), or to the girl I like. Recently I even feel anger because is something I can barely control. Even when I read manga, or watch TV, etc. If there is a pretty female character, I almost immediatly feel annoyed by her. 

Take into account, though, that I am not shy in general. I speak well in public, and I can speak to anyone including women. EXCEPT, the girl I like. She is the only one who breaks me. 

Has anyone ever felt the same? It is like a love-hate sensation. You like her, and the same time you hate her.

Your opening statement is damn rude and disrespectful. If you already put answers in peoples mouth, why even bother asking?

And feeling perplexed, jealousy, fear or simply feeling inferior to someone you like is quite normal. Everyone feels it to various degrees, and it's mainly their own imaginations getting the better of them. Overcoming that with courage is the first step in starting a healthy relationship.

Um... mommy issues?

Joking! I'm joking!

I think you need lap therapy. You need a pretty girl to sit you on her lap, burry your face into her boobs, pet your hair, and tell you everything will be ok.

Have you tried not liking people?

They're just people, not goddesses.

I used to moderate a dating forum, and this is by far and away the most common question we got. I think basically every single person goes through this at one point or the other. My own anectodal observations are that it happens more to men, but it most certainly happens to women, too.

How do you break yourself of this pattern?

Do things not related to women you are attracted to but make you step outside of your comfort zone. Try new things. Is there anything you want to try but some little fear holds you back? Talk to people you wouldn't normally talk to (and again, I don't mean attractive women). People in the line at the grocery store, or at work, or wherever you encounter people. Do things that help you gain confidence. Take classes, go skydiving, join a knitting club if you have always wanted to knit. You have to decide this for yourself. 

OF course you are frustrated. Who wouldn't be? Sex is a powerful drive that invades every thought and action. Annoying, isn't it?

Have you considered a build building/sculpting program to increase your self confidence and become the attractor, rather than the attracted?

Beware the pendulum, avoid the opposite swing extreme....just raise the bar and be happy with your accomplishment.









.....faggot.

I used to be shy around some I liked. Then I asked a few out, grew inured to the "no"s, and learned that they're human too.

They'll all turn 70 and get all gray and shrivel up like prunes, anyway. Lust seems overrated and love seems underrated.

I am actually relatively good looking. I could kiss a girl, or get a gf if I wanted to. The thing is, I want to do it with the girl I like. And therefore I have no sexual experience.

I agree, love is underrated as c172 said. Have a platonic girl for a girl, you are a weirdo. Desiring to fuck multiple girls like a moneky, completely normal.

Fuck this society.