Squishy.

I guess I *could* look at things more objectively, but this is dripshit, we're talking about. Trying to look at anything he says, objectively requires that I be fair and with him, there's no way that's gonna happen. He's too much of a twat waffle for me to see his side of anything.

(October 26, 2016 at 2:17 pm)Emjay Wrote:

(October 26, 2016 at 11:01 am)Nymphadora Wrote: I said I hate him. I stand by that. If that makes me lesser of a person, so be it. I will gladly own that.

Anger and hatred are an undeniable part of human nature, so no, I don't think any less of you for feeling that way... to each their own [ways of dealing with the world]. You have your way and I have my way so it makes no difference to me... I love you just the way you are

But nonetheless, my way is different; I don't like being in anger, regardless of how justified it feels... I don't like how it makes me feel or behave, or all the stuff that it leads to... hate, blame, grudges etc. I don't want to spend my life in those states because they are unpleasant. So though I can get caught up in it just as much as anyone else, because it's human nature, as soon as I become aware of it, I try for my own sake just as much as anyone else's, to detach from it... to no longer feed it, even if it would be satisfying to do so. To step back from it and understand it and the situation as a whole, as objectively as possible. So as much as I've had grudges in the past, and wanted to and imagined getting even, I don't do that any more, ever since I realised that it was a short-term buzz that only served to keep anger, blame, and hate alive in the long term. A case of giving up a short term high for the sake of the greater good, and I've never regretted that decision... whatever shit's going on in my life I feel much more peaceful as a result. But this is just me... as I said, to each their own

You get your ass up here Emjay. What the hell? What exactly are you saying?

(October 26, 2016 at 4:10 pm)LastPoet Wrote:

(October 26, 2016 at 2:17 pm)Emjay Wrote: Anger and hatred are an undeniable part of human nature, so no, I don't think any less of you for feeling that way... to each their own [ways of dealing with the world]. You have your way and I have my way so it makes no difference to me... I love you just the way you are

But nonetheless, my way is different; I don't like being in anger, regardless of how justified it feels... I don't like how it makes me feel or behave, or all the stuff that it leads to... hate, blame, grudges etc. I don't want to spend my life in those states because they are unpleasant. So though I can get caught up in it just as much as anyone else, because it's human nature, as soon as I become aware of it, I try for my own sake just as much as anyone else's, to detach from it... to no longer feed it, even if it would be satisfying to do so. To step back from it and understand it and the situation as a whole, as objectively as possible. So as much as I've had grudges in the past, and wanted to and imagined getting even, I don't do that any more, ever since I realised that it was a short-term buzz that only served to keep anger, blame, and hate alive in the long term. A case of giving up a short term high for the sake of the greater good, and I've never regretted that decision... whatever shit's going on in my life I feel much more peaceful as a result. But this is just me... as I said, to each their own

You get your ass up here Emjay. What the hell? What exactly are you saying?

What do you mean?

Come on LP, don't leave me dangling. Clearly I've offended you but I don't know how I will not apologise for how I deal with my feelings.

(October 26, 2016 at 4:04 pm)Nymphadora Wrote: Squishy.

I guess I *could* look at things more objectively, but this is dripshit, we're talking about. Trying to look at anything he says, objectively requires that I be fair and with him, there's no way that's gonna happen. He's too much of a twat waffle for me to see his side of anything.

I learnt long ago to not take anything he says seriously, for lack of insight on his part. The fact that he's not interested in discussion is only gravy. That he doubles-down on errors marks him as a deficient thinker.

I get the feeling that there's something I'm missing ... but that'll do for now.

Well thanks for that LP. Reading between the lines, you think I'm supporting something Drich has said? Well that's not the case at all, and I can pretty much say that categorically without even reading what he says. I'm right up there with Judi wishing he was gone from this site. But... ironically he was instrumental in my drive towards Buddhist thinking... so I am thankful to him for that. It took one unstoppable idiot for me to realise that there were some things in life that would never change and you could never get rid of. So I'm thankful to him for being like a stubborn turd in the toilet, because of the much needed lessons it has taught me. That when faced with an outside you have no control over, the only thing left to do is accept it as it is, without any attempt to change it or remove it, and work instead on how you deal with it in your own mind. And to take it further I'll use a common Buddhist analogy: what do you do when someone dumps a huge pile of shit on your front lawn? You dig it in and let it fertilise a beautiful garden. In other words you put adversity to good use, and learn from it, or grow from it. If you don't, you'll just be staring at a huge pile of shit forever.

That's a great point, Emmie. Let go of what you cannot control, and work inside yourself instead.

(October 26, 2016 at 4:51 pm)Emjay Wrote: Come on LP, don't leave me dangling. Clearly I've offended you but I don't know how I will not apologise for how I deal with my feelings.

I suck at reading between the lines, so no clue what LP meant, but he did kudos you for that post, no?

Me and Squishy totally have our similarities, and I love him for it, so that kind of makes me love myself a bit more too

Kind and compassionate guy he is.

(October 26, 2016 at 8:10 pm)Irrational Wrote:

(October 26, 2016 at 4:51 pm)Emjay Wrote: Come on LP, don't leave me dangling. Clearly I've offended you but I don't know how I will not apologise for how I deal with my feelings.

I suck at reading between the lines, so no clue what LP meant, but he did kudos you for that post, no?

I could be wrong about this but I personally think LP was joking around rather than offended. I rather think he was pulling Squishy's leg.

Well I certainly hope so, I'm gonna look a twat if he really was offended after all this lol.