(December 4, 2016 at 3:17 pm)Tonus Wrote:

(December 4, 2016 at 3:05 pm)Alasdair Ham Wrote: Lol what the fuck is wrong/right from me. I go from having a terrible day and feeling super sad to feeling fucking amazing and loved

Excellent, excellent!  Now, if you'd just step over here for a second...

LOL!!

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(December 4, 2016 at 3:44 pm)Alasdair Ham Wrote: Oh I can feel better without reassurance. It just helps when the specific reason I'm not feeling good is because I'm feeling unwanted. It's good for my self-esteem. I know I don't need it, it just helps. So thank you so much.

But, if your mood can go from super sad to super happy that quickly, it's worth thinking about. Sometimes it's hard to break habits and reflect ...but once you try something new to improve how you see yourself and others, all the work is worth it. We're all works in progress. 

Oh hell worth thinking about? Lol I live with it. I was misdiagnosed with bipolar and medicated with it for 7 years for a reason. I don't have bipolar but I have symptoms that gave the doctors reason to think I had it and my doctor says that regardless of if there is a label for my mental health problems they're very real.

It's just.... I know what I'm doing I understand my mood and the best way to deal with it

Everyone needs support from their friends. I'm just a little harder work than most people. And I get lonely easily.

Basically I think I need more support not less I'm always there to support all my friends. No one has to support me or comfort me but it's nice when they do

I'm here for my friends I think reassurance is a wonderful thing. A friend is feeling down and you make them feel better about themselves. No one needs it to survive but having a support circle and friends who are there for each other is truly wonderful.

(December 4, 2016 at 3:14 pm)Alasdair Ham Wrote: LOL Dude.

You gotta be kidding because I went out of my way to make it clear I was NOT promising I was practically wearing a flashing neon sign that says "PLEASE DON'T COMPARE ME TO THAT OTHER DOOFUS."

You're such a tease

Indeed.

(December 4, 2016 at 4:25 pm)*Deidre* Wrote:

(December 4, 2016 at 3:17 pm)Tonus Wrote: Excellent, excellent!  Now, if you'd just step over here for a second...

LOL!!

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(December 4, 2016 at 3:44 pm)Alasdair Ham Wrote: Oh I can feel better without reassurance. It just helps when the specific reason I'm not feeling good is because I'm feeling unwanted. It's good for my self-esteem. I know I don't need it, it just helps. So thank you so much.

But, if your mood can go from super sad to super happy that quickly, it's worth thinking about. Sometimes it's hard to break habits and reflect ...but once you try something new to improve how you see yourself and others, all the work is worth it. We're all works in progress. 

Remember... I'm saying no one needs reassurance but it certainly helps. Friends are there for each other and reassure each other that things are okay when they're off-track. Friends support each other. No one needs it but friendship is a wonderful thing and friends are there for each other through the hard times as well as the fun times.

When friends care about each other they show it and it's always wonderful when they do

It's never about needing. It's about caring

I'll not take any reassurance if I seek it, thanks very much. It's not good for people with anxiety disorders. I like it too. Doesn't mean it's good for me. Whatever floats your boat for you. Just don't do it to me.

(December 4, 2016 at 11:57 am)Alasdair Ham Wrote: I'll be sticking around for Mafia and hell, in all honesty I probably won't succeed at pulling myself away from AF but I'm gonna try. I thought I was a valuable member of the community but nowadays I get compared to the troublemakers when I struggle to not respond to them... even though I've always been that way. I don't understand it. I'm no different to I've ever been and I feel like most people used to like me here. Now I just feel so worthless and I don't understand it. I don't want to stick around if I'm bad for the community. It's going to be hard to quit though. I'm not going to pretend I'm gonna be successfully quitting. I'll probably struggle to stop posting. I'm gonna try though. And I'm definitely going to play Mafia when my ban ends.

Tired of some of my friends drifting away too. I just thought that internet friendships could be meaningful too. They always were to me. I feel so depressed.

Everyone here likes you, ham. Don't go. Things get heated and stuff gets said but at the end of the day your friends are still your friends.

(December 4, 2016 at 4:53 pm)Shell B Wrote: I'll not take any reassurance if I seek it, thanks very much. It's not good for people with anxiety disorders. I like it too. Doesn't mean it's good for me. Whatever floats your boat for you. Just don't do it to me.

Oh of course not. I'm only speaking for myself. I'm saying I think it's good for my health. I'm only speaking for myself

We should all do what works for us

I'm not advising what's good for anyone else. Just what's good for me and saying it's something I share in common with some people. Certainly not everyone Everyone is unique and different. Everyone should do whatever works for them

I don't need it but my health is better with it. Friends are wonderful

It means a lot to me when someone shows they care.

I'm trying to thank you for reassuring me and saying I disagree that it's bad for me, I think it's very good for me, that's all. I appreciate it. Thank you Shell

I'll try to remember not to ever reassure you when you're down. It's a habit because it's what I normally do when someone feels down and it's what my friends normally do to me. I apologize in advance if I ever forget that you don't like it.

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(December 4, 2016 at 4:54 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote:

(December 4, 2016 at 11:57 am)Alasdair Ham Wrote: I'll be sticking around for Mafia and hell, in all honesty I probably won't succeed at pulling myself away from AF but I'm gonna try. I thought I was a valuable member of the community but nowadays I get compared to the troublemakers when I struggle to not respond to them... even though I've always been that way. I don't understand it. I'm no different to I've ever been and I feel like most people used to like me here. Now I just feel so worthless and I don't understand it. I don't want to stick around if I'm bad for the community. It's going to be hard to quit though. I'm not going to pretend I'm gonna be successfully quitting. I'll probably struggle to stop posting. I'm gonna try though. And I'm definitely going to play Mafia when my ban ends.

Tired of some of my friends drifting away too. I just thought that internet friendships could be meaningful too. They always were to me. I feel so depressed.

Everyone here likes you, ham. Don't go. Things get heated and stuff gets said but at the end of the day your friends are still your friends.

Yeah I know. I just get downhearted sometimes and then I honestly express it

Better out than in. That's all

Hammie l think you're cute and have a funny disposition with a good humor and a nice temperament. I dont friend you on facebook because I am taking an "at arms length" approach with forum friends. 

I do worry about things you say though. Are you seeing a therapist? Just because you think something is good for you or works, may not be the case? Just saying you should open your mind to the possibility that you'll need help getting out of the predicament you're in. Because you are in one, I'm not gonna lie.  Your ups and downs are extreme. Have you quit drinking? that may help the smplification part.