I just praised my daughter for throwing her dinner plate at the wall somewhat more slowly than before. Was that wrong?

(December 23, 2016 at 4:37 am)Alex K Wrote: I just praised my daughter for throwing her dinner plate at the wall somewhat more slowly than before. Was that wrong?

No. Progress should always be recognized and appreciated. Baby steps.

Boru

(December 23, 2016 at 4:37 am)Alex K Wrote: I just praised my daughter for throwing her dinner plate at the wall somewhat more slowly than before. Was that wrong?

Absolutely.  She'll never become a star athlete if you don't let her develop her skills properly, you cad.

(December 22, 2016 at 8:44 pm)Loading Please Wait Wrote: Should parents praise their children and comfort them as a best friend or should parents criticize and give their children tough love to teach them life lessons?

False dichotomy.

(December 23, 2016 at 3:22 am)bennyboy Wrote:

(December 23, 2016 at 12:10 am)Tres Leches Wrote: Meh. Every older generation shakes their fists at the younger generation and calls them "spoiled and lazy".

What I particularly don't care for is smug, blanket generalizations on parents today and how they all supposedly spoil their kids.

My child certainly has it better than I did when I was a kid but that's because we didn't have food in the fridge when I was a kid and my parents were neglectful. Nor do I hit my child, like I was.

I'm not generally in favor of sticking one's nose in other family's parenting techniques but if you're going to do that, beware of blanket generalizations.

That's what millennial hipsters ALWAYS say!

lol, I see what you did there. 

Maybe I'm not really a Gen Xer.

My son got respect and appreciation for a job well-done, and critique when he goofed. Punishments did indeed happen, and he had his assigned chores. So far it seems to have worked.

I have a daughter, now in her 30s. The other chromosome donor, hereafter referred to as "Whatsisname," was a tough-love proponent and helicopter parent. I, on the other hand, favour leading by example, reasoning through things, and using non-physical discipline as a last resort and never physical discipline.

She rejected everything Whatisname tried to force her to do. When we divorced, daughter came to live with me. I provided required resources, let her get on with shaping her own life, and kept on being my usual self. 16 years after the split, daughter is happily self-employed and far more spartan that spoiled.

some kids even find elements of their upbringing they found lacking in later life

Friend of mine has a nephew, HORRIBLE child, expelled from more than 1 school, destructive, rages, still having laying on the ground kicking and screaming tantrums at age 12 (!), when he turned 18, joined the military and they shaped him up into a still deeply flawed, but functional adult.

I'll admit, when he signed up, I was mortified, I couldn't imagine him submitting to any discipline at all as he had never experienced any in his entire life up to that point. Turned out he LIKED it.

Whodda thought ?