(December 16, 2017 at 8:28 pm)vulcanlogician Wrote: Paulpablo"philosophist"

Funny, I just had the pleasure of meeting Little Rik in another thread.

You have my sympathy.

(December 16, 2017 at 8:23 pm)Succubus Wrote: The fact that they are not me.

Wow. We'll make sure to evict everyone in the state of Montana to make room for your ego.

As for me - people hate me because I don't do well in social settings. I tend to talk way too much and say way more about my life than necessary. Also - I have what some would consider to be a "strong" personality. People either like that or they don't. Most don't. I rub people the wrong way and I suffer from foot in mouth disease. 

That and I'm not pretty or attractive at all.

paulpablo Wrote:Especially if I'm eating something I enjoy then people tell me I make orgasm noises

Lol I do this sometimes but I've not seen people be annoyed with it then usually make a "oh wow" face

mh.brewer Wrote:They tell me I'm to serious.

I get this sometimes haha

The Valkyrie Wrote:I hold a door open for someone and they don't even acknowledge me with a nod or a smile, and they hear quite loudly behind them, "Thank you for holding the door open for me. You're most welcome. I love holding the door open for ignorant pricks!"

I sometimes do this but the times I do it I only hold the door open for old men or women, I once helped a old lady carry her bag to her house because she was super struggling with it and could barely lift it up, they're all very appreciative and it's such a nice feeling.

Kernal Sohcahtoa Wrote:I'm very serious and that I'm reserved/very introverted (based on my experience, some people can perceive this as arrogance).

Yup. I'm usually very friendly but sometimes I'm just not interested in making friends I'm trying to get something done but people perceive it as "oh he thinks he is such a hot shot that I'm not good enough for him to associate with? Prick"

Thena323 Wrote:I've been told that I'm "haughty" and/or "think too much of myself". But that's just ludicrous.

Yeah I get that sometimes, but it's usually a unfair accusation because I make extra sure to not come off like that.

Over the years, I have come to realize that I'm probably autistic (specifically Asperger's Syndrome). While I have a strong empathy towards the weak (both people and animals), I don't care much for people I don't feel are in that category.

I don't form bonds. People are disposable to me. I care about specific others as I would care for anyone else but there is nobody special to me. I have had almost no contact with my parents for over 35 years. It's not that they were bad parents in the sense that they were abusive or grossly negligent, it's just that I made little connection to them. So I disposed of them.

If you met me under good circumstances, you would probably find me to be an amiable, likable guy. But I'm not someone you could count on as a true friend because I rarely bond. I am deficient in that way. I recognize it but I don't know how to correct it. As Popeye said, "I am what I am."

I'm an introverted misanthropic apatheist, who's also a stubborn perfectionist and micromanager. What's not to love?

Jood, please don't say negative things like that about yourself... You're much better than that...
You have a loving family and heaps of pets! And you make good sauce! Italian style!  What's not to love!

(December 17, 2017 at 2:08 am)Joods Wrote:

(December 16, 2017 at 8:23 pm)Succubus Wrote: The fact that they are not me.

Wow. We'll make sure to evict everyone in the state of Montana to make room for your ego.

As for me - people hate me because I don't do well in social settings. I tend to talk way too much and say way more about my life than necessary. Also - I have what some would consider to be a "strong" personality. People either like that or they don't. Most don't. I rub people the wrong way and I suffer from foot in mouth disease.

 

I've had to learn to be more like you socially.  I was raised to be a perfect diplomat and that sucked.  Why would anyone want to be everyone's friend?  When I was actively dating two important things occurred to me.  One, that it sucked at least as much to be the one who breaks off a relationship as it does to be the one rejected.  Two, that being the case, it made no sense to put my best face (defined as the part they wanted to see) forward.  All that did was ensure that I would always have to be the rejector rather than the rejected, not a win.  By being disclosive about yourself and forthrightly honest n your opining, you may indeed rub some people the wrong way.  But, unless you're running for political office, that's good.  Winning mr or ms congeniality doesn't make for sustainably good relationships or even a satisfying life.  You are much, much better off being yourself and allowing people to sort themselves out accordingly.  You're my role model.

(December 17, 2017 at 2:08 am)Joods Wrote: That and I'm not pretty or attractive at all.

I've seen evidence to the contrary. Do you find there are men you like who are simply unbearably hard to look at? I haven't found that to be the case the other way around.

They tell me I'm never serious.

(December 17, 2017 at 3:26 am)KevinM1 Wrote: I'm an introverted misanthropic apatheist, who's also a stubborn perfectionist and micromanager.  What's not to love?

No need to pile on. Nothing after introverted misanthrope will make any difference one way or another.

People dislike how I never shut up and I struggle with dropping subjects. People dislike how pedantic I am. I don't think anyone hates me though. Except for maybe the odd fucktard.