I figured out how to get 80/80 and 1/80...having trouble trying for 40/80.

(May 23, 2018 at 4:51 am)Mathilda Wrote:

(May 22, 2018 at 11:29 am)Khemikal Wrote: For the actual purpose of the quiz thats not a problem.  High self esteem is an indicator of social acclimation..even if the source of that high esteem is a miscalculation.

Interesting.  Being on the autistic spectrum though is not the only reason to have low self esteem. You can start out in life happy and socially well adjusted and if your life turns to shit with most people surrounding hurting you then you can have less capacity to have empathy towards others and a lower self esteem.

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(May 23, 2018 at 12:29 am)Catholic_Lady Wrote: Interesting quiz. 76.

Wow, that's high.

I was thinking that my score was kind of low (38) but I am seeing people here with much lower scores who never struck me as lacking empathy.

I would be interested to know what the average is though. It occurred to me that you can't assume that 40 is the average.

I felt a lot of those questions were about intuition rather than empathy. Or maybe they are kind of the same thing? I've always felt like I was really in tune with other people's feelings and seeing things through their perspective. I imagine that's where the 76 came from.

(May 23, 2018 at 2:57 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote:

(May 23, 2018 at 4:51 am)Mathilda Wrote: Wow, that's high.

I was thinking that my score was kind of low (38) but I am seeing people here with much lower scores who never struck me as lacking empathy.

I would be interested to know what the average is though. It occurred to me that you can't assume that 40 is the average.

I felt a lot of those questions were about intuition rather than empathy. Or maybe they are kind of the same thing? I've always felt like I was really in tune with other people's feelings and seeing things through their perspective. I imagine that's where the 76 came from.

I used to think of myself as having a lot of empathy but when I did the test I was comparing myself to how I imagined other people would manage. I always expect to do badly when compared with someone else.

30/80

That said, the quiz is really, really flawed.

I’m highly introverted, so social situations tend to be stressful/draining for me.  Even with the people I care about, I can only be engaged for so long before I feel trapped.  It’s a weird kind of social claustrophobia, where, after a few hours, either I’m going to leave, or the other person has to.

Example: this past Saturday, I went down to my brother’s house to visit him and the kids.  The group was me, my mom, my oldest brother, his wife, my aunt, my cousin, his wife, my other brother, and the two kids.  We got there just before 2PM, and I was ready to leave by 3:45.  Not because I don’t love my family.  It’s just hard for me to handle that much bombardment.  It’s not much easier for me 1-on-1, either.

So, when it comes to questions about social interaction, in most hypothetical cases I can think of, I wouldn’t want to be there, and sometimes it’s hard for me to hide that from others.  It’s not really a matter of empathy.

That said, I have been told I’m a great listener, and my closest IRL friends do come to me for advice because I’m generally a voice of reason for them.  In a weird way, being able to empathize with them actually allows me to take a step back and look at the larger picture.  I know what they’re feeling and why, often because I’ve been in similar situations myself, so I can connect to them on that level, but since I’m not in the situation itself, I can give rational advice.

In general, I like to keep people at arm’s length, if not further away.  I don’t like opening myself up and feeling vulnerable, and my introverted nature lends little patience for other people’s drama in most cases.  Only a very select few are allowed inside - family, and friends that are like family.  And it takes a lot for someone to be a part of that second group.

Kev, being an introvert, when asked by friendly internal clients "are all IT people this unsociable", I've always joked "No, I got into IT because I was unsociable to start with!"

I got "divide by zero error". I sometimes cry when thinking about the lyrics to "The Teddy Bear's Picnic" because I'm concerned about whether the teddies are safe, and I want no harm to come to them. It's so amazingly stupid, and I know they're not real, but I cry anyway. My empathy is just ridiculous. It can be debilitating.

(May 23, 2018 at 1:08 am)Edwardo Piet Wrote:

(May 23, 2018 at 12:54 am)AFTT47 Wrote: What good is an entity who is driven by nothing but cold logic?

What's wrong with warm logic?

Lack of empathy =/= abundance of logic.

(May 23, 2018 at 7:50 am)Khemikal Wrote: I figured out how to get 80/80 and 1/80...having trouble trying for 40/80.

I must have gotten lucky then as I got a 40 the one time I tried it.

I think that means you have the perfect balance of giving/not giving a fuck

I got 50 but I didn't know how to look at a lot of the questions. Like I feel bad for people that are suffering, but not always really bad. I think I erred on the side of being charitable to myself a few times. Well I think I put somewhat agree for some of them.