Catholic Lady, I don’t mean to offend you, but I think that’s enough excuses and context for the rest of us. He hasn’t even apologized for any of it. When I messaged him to tell him that telling Jack she stabbed him in the back was crossing another line, he ignored me. If he had something to say, he can say it his fucking self. Maybe defend her from him instead of him from us?

Also, you said you’d said all you had to say. The continued effort to rally people to his side doesn’t sound at all like someone who isn’t trying to excuse his behavior.

(August 19, 2018 at 8:17 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: He is a witty and intelligent person. The severe depression combined with a lot of alcohol makes him say things he doesn't truly mean, things that the real Stimbo who is thinking clearly wouldn't have said.  

(For reference: In his drunken state he has talked to me as though Sam is still alive, and has also asked me to pray for him.)  

It doesn't excuse the awful thing he said to Jack, but it does put it into context.

TROLL.

Not Cyberman, you. Just in case there was any confusion.

Well, I was an heroin addict for the better part of my life. Never dropped so low. Its a fact that heroin is better than sex but still...

(August 19, 2018 at 9:09 pm)Succubus Wrote:

(August 19, 2018 at 8:17 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: He is a witty and intelligent person. The severe depression combined with a lot of alcohol makes him say things he doesn't truly mean, things that the real Stimbo who is thinking clearly wouldn't have said.  

(For reference: In his drunken state he has talked to me as though Sam is still alive, and has also asked me to pray for him.)  

It doesn't excuse the awful thing he said to Jack, but it does put it into context.

TROLL.

Oh look an idiot able to use fonrs and colours. Shut the fuuck up eedjit. Let the adults talk.

(August 19, 2018 at 8:17 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: He is a witty and intelligent person. The severe depression combined with a lot of alcohol makes him say things he doesn't truly mean, things that the real Stimbo who is thinking clearly wouldn't have said.  

(For reference: In his drunken state he has talked to me as though Sam is still alive, and has also asked me to pray for him.)  

It doesn't excuse the awful thing he said to Jack, but it does put it into context.

Bullshit. Nothing that he said could ever be out into any sort of context that could be deemed acceptable. Ever. The fact that you still try to find good in him makes me worry. He will not get help. He will not accept true responsibility for his words. He will continue to blame others and excuse away his behavior because there is something wrong with him. As long as he knows people will offer him pity and attention, he will milk a sob story for all he can. He's been told dozens of times to move on and get help after Sam died.

I remember how many people went to bat trying to help him when he threatened to kill himself. It was scary and many people, myself included, were worried sick. It was all a ruse to get attention. He. Doesn't.Want.To. Get. Better. Do you understand that?

He has sunk to a low. So low that he actually considered raping an innocent woman. You should be angry about that. Stop trying to appeal to his decent side. He has no decent side.

Pfff, perhaps that "sam" never existed for all I know. Sad story to get women to emphatize. Mabe I am this evil minded. You are free to lynch me.

And if I had known, I would push for a permaban, not a simple fire from staff. I feel sick.

(August 19, 2018 at 9:13 pm)LastPoet Wrote:

(August 19, 2018 at 9:09 pm)Succubus Wrote:
TROLL.

Oh look an idiot able to use fonrs and colours. Shut the fuuck up eedjit. Let the adults talk.

That forum moderators involve themselves in personal issues suggests they may be emotionally involved. This does not a good moderator make.

Quote:ANY issues should be raised behind the scenes, if only as a ‘recorded for posterity’ thread. All moderators should be clear on how decisions are made and what they should do to find out what to do about something.

If there are multiple members, which there should be in a reasonably active forum, then new or contentious issues should be discussed and – if a clear agreement can’t be reached – voted on.

https://bubbajuju.com/forum-moderating/

(August 19, 2018 at 9:26 pm)Succubus Wrote:

(August 19, 2018 at 9:13 pm)LastPoet Wrote: Oh look an idiot able to use fonrs and colours. Shut the fuuck up eedjit. Let the adults talk.

That forum moderators involve themselves in personal issues suggests they may be emotionally involved. This does not a good moderator make.

Quote:ANY issues should be raised behind the scenes, if only as a ‘recorded for posterity’ thread. All moderators should be clear on how decisions are made and what they should do to find out what to do about something.

If there are multiple members, which there should be in a reasonably active forum, then new or contentious issues should be discussed and – if a clear agreement can’t be reached – voted on.

https://bubbajuju.com/forum-moderating/

That has Fuck all to do with what went on.

Anything there that didn’t happen here? Staff hasn’t gotten involved in personal issues any more than usual members. Has anyone been banned? Narp. There was nothing to discuss or vote on.