(April 1, 2020 at 8:49 pm)arewethereyet Wrote:

(April 1, 2020 at 8:38 pm)BrianSoddingBoru4 Wrote: I was always built OK, but had a face that would curdle new milk and dressed like a refugee from a tire fire, and still managed to do alright. It doesn’t always come down to looks.

Boru

Looks get an immediate reaction/response - but there are some really good looking complete assholes out there.  A guy who has some wit and charm...a sense of style... and if he can play music and/or dance...yeah, that's worth a second or third look.

And even that can backfire on women. Though, to be far more fair than Dahvie Vanity deserves, I'm not sure Blood on the Dancefloor really counts as music:

(April 1, 2020 at 9:27 pm)Rev. Rye Wrote:

(April 1, 2020 at 8:49 pm)arewethereyet Wrote: Looks get an immediate reaction/response - but there are some really good looking complete assholes out there.  A guy who has some wit and charm...a sense of style... and if he can play music and/or dance...yeah, that's worth a second or third look.

And even that can backfire on women. Though, to be far more fair than Dahvie Vanity deserves, I'm not sure Blood on the Dancefloor really counts as music:

Sorry, I am not tracking...your comment doesn't make sense to me.  There is something I am missing.

Even someone with some superficial charm (and a musician at that) can turn out to be just as toxic as the incels. Hell, potentially even worse, because when Blood on the Dance Floor goes on tour, Dahvie Vanity apparently has a girl in every concert stop, and when I say girl, I don’t mean someone of consenting age.

(April 1, 2020 at 8:25 pm)arewethereyet Wrote: Musicians are hot.

At the time I understood that in rock band terms.  I didn't think it applied to trumpet players.  Other than Herb Alpert.  Hell I'd do him.

Later I learned that the intro and first verse of Over the Hills and Far Away was all I needed and simply wasn't fair unless I meant it.

Looking further back at myself as a 9 year old in pads and cleats, angry tears welling, sitting at the piano practicing some bullshit song because dad had laid down the law.  No football until you practice for the next lesson.  I understand his logic.  There are may be  two ways this boy is going get to laid but sports ain't one of em.

(April 1, 2020 at 11:24 pm)Rev. Rye Wrote: Even someone with some superficial charm (and a musician at that) can turn out to be just as toxic as the incels. Hell, potentially even worse, because when Blood on the Dance Floor goes on tour, Dahvie Vanity apparently has a girl in every concert stop, and when I say girl, I don’t mean someone of consenting age.

As is the case with nearly anyone.  You never know where things are headed until you get to know a person and that can take years...decades even.

(April 1, 2020 at 8:49 pm)arewethereyet Wrote:

(April 1, 2020 at 8:38 pm)BrianSoddingBoru4 Wrote: I was always built OK, but had a face that would curdle new milk and dressed like a refugee from a tire fire, and still managed to do alright. It doesn’t always come down to looks.

Boru

Looks get an immediate reaction/response - but there are some really good looking complete assholes out there.  A guy who has some wit and charm...a sense of style... and if he can play music and/or dance...yeah, that's worth a second or third look.

My wife says that what first attracted me to her was that I seemed to be goofy and sincere at the same time (her words, not mine).  What attracted me to her is that she didn't ask about my eyepatch the first time she met me.

Boru

(April 2, 2020 at 5:40 am)BrianSoddingBoru4 Wrote:

(April 1, 2020 at 8:49 pm)arewethereyet Wrote: Looks get an immediate reaction/response - but there are some really good looking complete assholes out there.  A guy who has some wit and charm...a sense of style... and if he can play music and/or dance...yeah, that's worth a second or third look.

My wife says that what first attracted me to her was that I seemed to be goofy and sincere at the same time (her words, not mine).  What attracted me to her is that she didn't ask about my eyepatch the first time she met me.

Boru

What about the parrot, peg leg, and tendency to go "arrrr" at random intervals?

(April 2, 2020 at 6:08 am)The Valkyrie Wrote:

(April 2, 2020 at 5:40 am)BrianSoddingBoru4 Wrote: My wife says that what first attracted me to her was that I seemed to be goofy and sincere at the same time (her words, not mine).  What attracted me to her is that she didn't ask about my eyepatch the first time she met me.

Boru

What about the parrot, peg leg, and tendency to go "arrrr" at random intervals?

As long as I'm on the meds, that only happens aboard ship.

Boru

To paraphrase Roy Chubby Brown:

'I couldn't get me hole in a brothel with a fiver sticking out me top pocket.'

(April 1, 2020 at 8:32 pm)Gawdzilla Sama Wrote: I had a friend who I thought would never get laid. But he evidently got a sympathy fuck and that went wrong when he figured it was going to be a regular thing. I had to referee their last meeting, she was scared of him by then. The last time I saw him he was over forty and one fuck shy of being a virgin. Given that he looked like a character actor out of a 1930s western this was no surprise. He would have been listed as "Cook's Assistant" in the credits, if he even got a line.

I have a friend in his 50s who has apparently had sex 18 times with 18 different women, not one second timer. I don't know what he is doing wrong. He is thin with dark hair and is not unattractive.(as far as I can tell)