(June 3, 2013 at 2:25 pm)meak Wrote: If it's clearly an open relationship that both parties agree on, why not? If the other person doesn't know, it's a betrayal and just really, really mean.

If it's an open relationship, I wouldn't consider that cheating.

I'm friends with a handful of polyamorous people. They're good fun (without being involved). They have really healthy mindsets.

(June 3, 2013 at 2:31 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote:

(June 3, 2013 at 2:25 pm)meak Wrote: If it's clearly an open relationship that both parties agree on, why not? If the other person doesn't know, it's a betrayal and just really, really mean.

If it's an open relationship, I wouldn't consider that cheating.

I'm friends with a handful of polyamorous people. They're good fun (without being involved). They have really healthy mindsets.

That's a good point. Okay, all cheating is bad then. A possible exception if they cheated first but then it's questionable if the relationship is already over to have someone to cheat on.

Don't get me wrong Nora, I'm not possessive traditional monagamous relationship pushing bunny here I think anything with both parties' consent is fine. Cheating though..well I've been on the short end of the stick and since you seem to have been on the long end of the stick (involuntary pun included!) then maybe take it from me when I say that you may think you never got caught, but reality is much more complex than that. Would you say your partners trusted you unequivocally %100 no doubt in their minds whatsoever?

Why would I want 100% trust? Smart men know better than to trust people, and I like my men smart.

As for not getting caught, I never got caught, but I did enjoy carrying on with 4 different guys behind my boyfriends back for a whole year before telling him all about it as I dumped his sorry arse.

Meh, if someone is worth cheating on, I probably don't have time for their sorry ass to begin with. That's just me though. I might as well be single and carry on with those four guys anyway.

That's just me though - I don't have the energy for revenge.

We were only still together out of habit really. We had been together for 6 years, since I was 17.

(June 3, 2013 at 4:18 pm)NoraBrimstone Wrote: Why would I want 100% trust? Smart men know better than to trust people, and I like my men smart.

As for not getting caught, I never got caught, but I did enjoy carrying on with 4 different guys behind my boyfriends back for a whole year before telling him all about it as I dumped his sorry arse.

Scandalous!

Annnd why didn't you just dump him before the four guys?

I didn't want to.

Fair enough

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So what are we talking about now? How those actions didn't have any effect on the world, or all five of those men, relations between the sexes, or you? I'm confused.