Would you date a christian?

[Edwardo Piet]

My wife won't let me date anyone.

I promise I'm not laughing at your pain

It was just hilarious!

[Cecelia]

My husband was a Christian for a while. Not sure I'd stick with him though if he were anything like most of his family. He's an atheist now, so I'm not really sure how strongly he really believed or how much he was brainwashed by his family.

[Anomalocaris]

My wife won't let me date anyone.

At least your wife is not forcing you to treat her as if you are on a date.

[Longhorn]

If I wanted to date, yeah but depends on HOW christian. Liberal ones that keep it to themselves don't bother me. But there are trigger words and behaviours that would make it physically impossible if that person was outspoken about it

[Alex K]

I mean, hypothetically, while the probability is pretty much somewhere between -1 and zero, in principle my wife could some day decide that she's now a Christian. Won't happen, but if she did, would I get a divorce because of that? Hell no

[robvalue]

Ah, interesting!

If my wife suddenly became Christian? Hmm. Well, of course I'm not going to file for divorce immediately based on anything. It would be a question of how much she changed because of it. If it became apparent, after some time, that she was a radically different person that I no longer felt comfortable being with, then that would be a big problem. But that's not unique to religion, it could apply to anything.

Even if my wife flipped out and started killing people, my first reaction would be that she has gone insane and needs help.

[Redbeard The Pink]

I hate being closed-minded, but I'm there in this case. I've tried to date Christians in the past, some of the cafeteria variety, some more fervent; it has never worked out because we are too different fundamentally.

Deciding not to repeat an experience after trying it out isn't closed-minded, or at least I don't think so. Closed-mindedness would be to decide before you've had the experience.

[Iroscato]

Don't worry, Cathy, it's not a deal breaker for me. We can still be together...

[Alex K]

I'm nauseous...

[drfuzzy]

I suppose....

If someone was nominally a Christian, but was so liberal that they didn't take it very seriously at all, it could work. I think it's the worshipping, submission, and thinking morality can and should come from religion that would cause me big problems. Also the idea that people who are not part of the religion deserve lesser afterlives.

In the case of Christianity, there's the added problem of accepting vicarious redemption and the belief that we are inherently broken and in need of fixing. All of these things are fundamental differences I don't think I could overcome in a long term relationship.

Maybe it's a 'Murican Bible Belt thing, but even the "liberal" xtians that I know would try to convert an atheist.  They're ok with different xtian denominations being together - I even know of a few Jewish/Catholic couples that make it work, but someone who doesn't believe in god? Oh, the horror!      Even my lovely liberal Catholic friends who know that I'm "not practicing" ask pointed questions sometimes, trying to get me to spell out my problems with Catholicism.  It's easy to tell from their sweetly concerned expressions that they really hope to solve my little issues and get me back "into the fold".  

     It's nearly impossible for me to imagine that a xtian who wanted a serious relationship with me wouldn't also be desperate to "save my soul".  I doubt that we would get past the 2nd date.