Victim Blaming?

[account_inactive]

Remember, diversity is a code word for no white people.

I know, right?  We used to be pure here in America, but those goddamn potato-eating Irish moved in.  Then it was the smelly Italians.  Fuckin' diversity nearly killed us.

There's always been a form of diversity among the cultures in Europe and that's alright. I'm talking about mass immigration from the Middle East. I've always said that immigration is fine, as long as it is controlled but when you have Brits becoming minorities in certain areas, you know it's getting ridiculous.

[The Grand Nudger]

Brits becoming minorities......in certain areas?  You mean when the immigrants - minority as they may be on the whole, are confined (self-so or situationally) to ethnic ghettos, and so become the majority in their little impoverished specks of sovereign british soil.......it's getting pretty ridiculous?  

[RobertE]

It took a persistent ex- pointing out to me the dark side of my alcoholism (as if there's a bright side! Denial is a sonofabitch) to make me look at my drinking objectively. I'll always be grateful for her loving persistence even as my drinking destroyed our relationship ... and here we get to the crux of the matter: abusing any drug brings with it heightened risk of bad effects, and pointing that out is not the same as telling someone how they should enjoy themselves. It's simply pointing out a fact.

We are all here to be objetive yet at the same time it takes someone to be objective to see what we are doing with our lives. Incredible story Thump and hope all goes well. I have never been one for alcohol or drugs (the ultimate square) because I don't want to be like what my dad was, so, I want to make a long lasting impression on my children, who also state that I will die in 10 years time if I don't stop smoking.....how is that for being objective?

[Jello]

Remember, diversity is a code word for no white people.

I know, right?  We used to be pure here in America, but those goddamn potato-eating Irish moved in.  Then it was the smelly Italians.  Fuckin' diversity nearly killed us.

Now now, thems are good clean  western european people, they aren't a problem, can never do anything wrong as you so well know by now! Always them thar eastern europeans and middle east'ners ruining our countries right?

(Is it me or do the far right really hate anything east?)

[account_inactive]

I'm not far-right.

[Thumpalumpacus]

Did I just make it awkward?  ?

It takes balls to speak frankly about your experience.

You, madame, have some balls.

[account_inactive]

But yet again, you've openly admitted to being against borders as a whole, so what you say doesn't even surprise me anymore.

[LadyForCamus]

Did I just make it awkward?  ?

It takes balls to speak frankly about your experience.

You, madame, have some balls.

Eh, it was a pretty low-risk confession; I don't know any of you. 

(JK.  fact, you guys probably know more about me than most of my friends and family.  It's so much easier to bring out the skeletons in your closet when you aren't looking at someone face to face.  )

[Thumpalumpacus]

It takes balls to speak frankly about your experience.

You, madame, have some balls.

Eh, it was a pretty low-risk confession; I don't know any of you.   

(JK.  fact, you guys probably know more about me than most of my friends and family.  It's so much easier to bring out the skeletons in your closet when you aren't looking at someone face to face.  )

I just liked the thought of telling a pretty gal she's got man-parts, seems funny to me.

It is a bit low-risk -- I talk about my issues here in a way that I rarely do in real life. I will talk about my alcoholism IRL with strangers on occasion if I sense a sympathetic heart.

I never mention my molestation to anyone IRL, really. I've told three or four people over the last twenty-five years, and I hated doing it. Online, only here, and one other (now defunct) forum, have I felt comfortable enough to talk about it. But even then -- and even now -- it feels like attention-whoring and makes me deeply uncomfortable. So I'm going to shut the fuck up.

[LadyForCamus]

I never mention my molestation to anyone IRL, really. I've told three or four people over the last twenty-five years, and I hated doing it. Online, only here, and  one other (now defunct) forum, have I felt comfortable enough to talk about it. But even then -- and even now -- it feels like attention-whoringand makes me deeply uncomfortable. So I'm going to shut the fuck up.

Yeah, this exactly.  Maybe because sexual assault is still taboo in our society?  (Is it?)  I'm not sure, but it definitely always feels as if I'm appealing to emotion, or fishing for pity.  It's like...nails on a chalk board just typing it out; another example of the subtle, but lasting psychological damage this kind of trauma has on people.  So sorry to hear that you are an honorary club member, Thump.  [emoji45]  Don't ever feel that you should 'shut the fuck up' about it, or anything EVER.  Sometimes these experiences are worth the discomfort of bringing up because they're relevant to the discussion, and sometimes it just feels good to get it off your chest.